So pimp its scary
Master Don Juan
Recently, after dumping my gf, I reexamined my 'strategy' of macking. I tried explaining this to a friend of mine, but he didn't quite understand... perhaps it will be better to write it out. I am assuming knowledge of approaching and building rapport.
Here's the idea :
a) Approach - Nothing special... idle chatter. Just try to avoid letting the conversation die out.
b) Develop some sort of rapport - This is crucial, if you don't develop even a mild level of rapport with the girl at this point, SHE will be indifferent of your 'indifference'.
c) Become 'indifferent' / aloof(?) - This doesn't mean that you end the conversation, just at some point show disinterest in the girl...
d) Wait for her to bring up a new topic (or some other "cue") - Then snap back into rapport with the girl, or start being interested in what she has to say again... perhaps a little bit MORE interested then previously.
e)Wait for a next "cue", ie; lull in the convo, Calgary scores the winning goal on the big screen, something that will draw away your attention and return you to your state of aloofness.
f) Repeat as needed.
Why does this work?
I've had a fair amount of woman who would call me "like a casanova' or 'some sort of loverboy', or something to that effect, yet I'm not certain exactly why it works... here's my theory :
a) Approach : The act of approach implies interest. Here she will rate you, and may put you out of her running... it doesn't matter, so long as the minimum of a conversation can be kept up.
b) Rapport : The whole act of relating is about finding things in common which happens the more you find out you have in common the more that the two can 'relate' with.
c) Become Indifferent : Most women are used to be hit on by guys all the time, they are constantly reinforced of their attractiveness simply based on the number of times they are approached. When you show your aloofness, she seems to think, "Oh no, am I not attractive enough?" and such endless loops of questioning her attractiveness, and will eventually make an effort to get more 'attention' out of you to prove her attractiveness.
d) Wait for a cue - This is simply put the cue that returns your interest to her, thus confirming for her her attractiveness, and bringing the two back to a state of rapport, and if you show more interest then previously she will keep the rapport by demonstrating more interest in you.
e) Once this little 'High' wears off and the interest starts slowing again, you quickly find a cue to become aloof again. She will start the internal cycle of doubt once again and sooner or later start trying to regain your interest...
f) repeat as necessary... As I told my friend before leaving the bar, that it's a simple way to control the woman, he said that it would not work.
Once we got to the bar, he ran into two friends that we started talking to... at first she was hardly expressing any interest in me and I was deeply considering looking elsewhere, but using the 'guidelines' that I mention she started initiating conversation after the slow points, eventually asked to be walked home, and eventually gobbed on the royal nob.
Here's the idea :
a) Approach - Nothing special... idle chatter. Just try to avoid letting the conversation die out.
b) Develop some sort of rapport - This is crucial, if you don't develop even a mild level of rapport with the girl at this point, SHE will be indifferent of your 'indifference'.
c) Become 'indifferent' / aloof(?) - This doesn't mean that you end the conversation, just at some point show disinterest in the girl...
d) Wait for her to bring up a new topic (or some other "cue") - Then snap back into rapport with the girl, or start being interested in what she has to say again... perhaps a little bit MORE interested then previously.
e)Wait for a next "cue", ie; lull in the convo, Calgary scores the winning goal on the big screen, something that will draw away your attention and return you to your state of aloofness.
f) Repeat as needed.
Why does this work?
I've had a fair amount of woman who would call me "like a casanova' or 'some sort of loverboy', or something to that effect, yet I'm not certain exactly why it works... here's my theory :
a) Approach : The act of approach implies interest. Here she will rate you, and may put you out of her running... it doesn't matter, so long as the minimum of a conversation can be kept up.
b) Rapport : The whole act of relating is about finding things in common which happens the more you find out you have in common the more that the two can 'relate' with.
c) Become Indifferent : Most women are used to be hit on by guys all the time, they are constantly reinforced of their attractiveness simply based on the number of times they are approached. When you show your aloofness, she seems to think, "Oh no, am I not attractive enough?" and such endless loops of questioning her attractiveness, and will eventually make an effort to get more 'attention' out of you to prove her attractiveness.
d) Wait for a cue - This is simply put the cue that returns your interest to her, thus confirming for her her attractiveness, and bringing the two back to a state of rapport, and if you show more interest then previously she will keep the rapport by demonstrating more interest in you.
e) Once this little 'High' wears off and the interest starts slowing again, you quickly find a cue to become aloof again. She will start the internal cycle of doubt once again and sooner or later start trying to regain your interest...
f) repeat as necessary... As I told my friend before leaving the bar, that it's a simple way to control the woman, he said that it would not work.
Once we got to the bar, he ran into two friends that we started talking to... at first she was hardly expressing any interest in me and I was deeply considering looking elsewhere, but using the 'guidelines' that I mention she started initiating conversation after the slow points, eventually asked to be walked home, and eventually gobbed on the royal nob.