"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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C0ckblocking dude

EverSure75

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Met two girls at a party. One very hot, the other mediocre. Had very good rapport with the hot one, she was really digging me and things were going really well. However, some guy she knew came over saying hi to her. From that moment, he kept sticking around and obviously tried to take over from me, trying to interrupt the interaction between her and me.

Actually, the other girl also liked me and at some point I was talking to both of them at the same time. The guy was occupied with a friend of his at that point but as he saw me standing with the chicks, he came over, positioned himself behind the girls and put his arms around their necks like they were buddies.

So the three of them were standing opposite to me, him with his arms around the chicks, kinda isolating me.

I could see that the girls liked him but more like "Nice guy, nice to talk to, but not giving me any vagina tingles..." So I didn't really think of him as a threat and it was obvious that the girls were very much into me. However, the girls allowed him to take over the conversation, they made no effort to block him out or resist his c0ckblocking behavior. Obviously, that was MY responsibility. I know they liked me and weren't really interested in him, they would follow my lead if I took charge of the situation.

But I gotta admit that I suck at this stuff. The only thing I can come up with is to get really aggressive and tell him to fvck off before I punch his face in... Not the best way to navigate the situation, I guess. Girls don't want to hang around two guys who are about to punch each other, they will leave the scene and the guys end up with each other while the girls move on.

Countering with the same tactics doesn't work either. Trying to physically "claim" the girls and pulling them towards you will make them feel like they're being passed around like some object that two guys are fighting over. The situation becomes tense and the girls will move on.

So I know there are more subtle tactics to navigate these situations. Somehow make the guy look like a fool by saying something smart and witty, making him look bad to the girls and making yourself stand out with the girls. I want to finish the guy off like that, just being master of the situation and OWN him with words, to the point where he realizes he can't compete and runs off with his tail between his legs.

So give me your thoughts! How would you deal with the situation in general but more specifically with that moment where he put his arms around them, trying to isolate me?
I’m in no competition with a guy like that. When I see something like you described happening, I excuse myself. Eye contact and smile with the woman. “Really nice meeting you guys. Maybe we’ll catch up again sometime”. I leave and find someone else to talk to.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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zekko

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Actually, the other girl also liked me and at some point I was talking to both of them at the same time. The guy was occupied with a friend of his at that point but as he saw me standing with the chicks, he came over, positioned himself behind the girls and put his arms around their necks like they were buddies.
Sounds like he was a d!ckhead c0ckblocker, as you say. But let me just throw this out there:
Is it possible he saw you doing well with two girls and came in to try to get in on the action? He probably figured you weren't going to go home with both the girls. One for him, one for you?
 
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