All humour has a precept (except for puns and the like, which are just dumb anyway). They take a concept and then warp it into an exaggerated version. JUST warping reality gets you somewhere, but the best jokes have a base in a concept which we already feel. If you can take a fact which brings emotion to a person and exaggerate it into a comic version - a joke - you get laughs.
For instance, how many yanks does it take to screw in a lightbulb? 100, one to hold the lighbulb and 99 to turn the house. The precept is that yanks are stupid.
It's hard to explain this -- but basically, the more the precept of the joke makes you feel something, the funnier the joke will be. Yanks probably won't find that joke funny, but brits will (in an alternate universe where we haven't already heard the joke 500 times). Think of all those stand up comedy acts where they just go on about airline food, and though they don't really bring up anything you're not expecting, it's funny. The precept is the universal experience of bad airline service. Because it's an experience with a lot of emotion involved, the comic can hook the audience. Ever heard the phrases "he tells it like it is" and "it's funny because it's true"?
David DeAngelo mentioned a quote from a book on comedy:
So, you need to take the character which girls are looking for and make that your precept. What character would that be?
CONFIDENT - which, exaggerated, becomes ****Y.
And you can also take the precept of the situation between you and make it into humour: that she wants you so badly, and you're ambivalent.
The point of this is that the precepts made into humour is like a CONCENTRATED SHOT of these values - they come to view you as that confident person immediately and easily --in fact, somehow larger than life.
Okay, that's theory anyway. Sometimes it doesn't quite fit that mould, but it's a good starting point.
Part of C&F is teasing. I think this is the point when most people go wrong. The idea of teasing is to screw about with them - because you think it's cute when they're mad and you're confident enough to know she's not going to just slap you and leave if you show some personality. NOT to hurt their feelings or belittle them.
Think of kids on the playground calling each other names. It might be witty sometimes, but it still hurts them. The big bully is the guy with the big inferiority complex. He insults people to assure himself that he's better than them.
The ****y guy teases girls because it's fun to watch their little faces pout at him: he doesn't need proof to know he kicks ass. But the ****y guy is good at heart. He would never think of trying to belittle them.
Note the difference between "ego-pain" and anger. Ego-pain, I mean, from insults etc, scars. Anger, though, is GOOD. It's not pain. Though ego-pain and anger often go hand in hand, anger itself makes the blood rush and adrenaline flow, bringing aggression, making you feel powerful if nothing else, and makes the experience unforgettable. Yes. Something a little like lust. Anger is GOOD.
A little bit of fighting sets a relationship on fire. It's when the insults come out that people start hating each other.
Naturally that means not to go TOO far. It starts getting serious when you stop being funny. But so long as there is a spirit of playfulness about it and both of you know that it's not serious - it's teasing.
If you ever hit a sore spot with the teasing and she's hurt, you CAN apologise. Not "PLEASE FORGIVE ME!" .. you can say, "hey, I was just screwing with you" in a slightly accusing tone. (You might not need her approval, but can still clear things up a little). Make it quick and you can forget about it quickly.
I think that a guy can still apologise. If you're going to be a DJ all the time and not just putting your face on to pick up girls, you'd have to just to get along in life. The point is that you only apologise when you MEAN it.
But I'm getting off track.
For instance, how many yanks does it take to screw in a lightbulb? 100, one to hold the lighbulb and 99 to turn the house. The precept is that yanks are stupid.
It's hard to explain this -- but basically, the more the precept of the joke makes you feel something, the funnier the joke will be. Yanks probably won't find that joke funny, but brits will (in an alternate universe where we haven't already heard the joke 500 times). Think of all those stand up comedy acts where they just go on about airline food, and though they don't really bring up anything you're not expecting, it's funny. The precept is the universal experience of bad airline service. Because it's an experience with a lot of emotion involved, the comic can hook the audience. Ever heard the phrases "he tells it like it is" and "it's funny because it's true"?
David DeAngelo mentioned a quote from a book on comedy:
The character becomes the precept of our humour.
So, you need to take the character which girls are looking for and make that your precept. What character would that be?
CONFIDENT - which, exaggerated, becomes ****Y.
And you can also take the precept of the situation between you and make it into humour: that she wants you so badly, and you're ambivalent.
The point of this is that the precepts made into humour is like a CONCENTRATED SHOT of these values - they come to view you as that confident person immediately and easily --in fact, somehow larger than life.
Okay, that's theory anyway. Sometimes it doesn't quite fit that mould, but it's a good starting point.
Part of C&F is teasing. I think this is the point when most people go wrong. The idea of teasing is to screw about with them - because you think it's cute when they're mad and you're confident enough to know she's not going to just slap you and leave if you show some personality. NOT to hurt their feelings or belittle them.
Think of kids on the playground calling each other names. It might be witty sometimes, but it still hurts them. The big bully is the guy with the big inferiority complex. He insults people to assure himself that he's better than them.
The ****y guy teases girls because it's fun to watch their little faces pout at him: he doesn't need proof to know he kicks ass. But the ****y guy is good at heart. He would never think of trying to belittle them.
Note the difference between "ego-pain" and anger. Ego-pain, I mean, from insults etc, scars. Anger, though, is GOOD. It's not pain. Though ego-pain and anger often go hand in hand, anger itself makes the blood rush and adrenaline flow, bringing aggression, making you feel powerful if nothing else, and makes the experience unforgettable. Yes. Something a little like lust. Anger is GOOD.
A little bit of fighting sets a relationship on fire. It's when the insults come out that people start hating each other.
Naturally that means not to go TOO far. It starts getting serious when you stop being funny. But so long as there is a spirit of playfulness about it and both of you know that it's not serious - it's teasing.
If you ever hit a sore spot with the teasing and she's hurt, you CAN apologise. Not "PLEASE FORGIVE ME!" .. you can say, "hey, I was just screwing with you" in a slightly accusing tone. (You might not need her approval, but can still clear things up a little). Make it quick and you can forget about it quickly.
I think that a guy can still apologise. If you're going to be a DJ all the time and not just putting your face on to pick up girls, you'd have to just to get along in life. The point is that you only apologise when you MEAN it.
But I'm getting off track.