"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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C*ckblocked by alcohol

Yo'Mama

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I finally have to admit that the dates where I don't drink or keep things to a glass or two of wine are going much better than the dates where I drink a bottle and a half of wine. The problem is the latter dates are more fun. I guess I just like getting smashed and talking/pulling girls, rather than trying to do the same sober.

Any of you guys relate?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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yeaa if it's a one on one date try to restrain yourself. The only exception might be if she is also smashed. I would say a good rule is to always be a bit more sober than her so you can keep your wits about you.

If you're talking about socializing at a party or something...that's different. Not gonna lie, i like to get drunk before i start really going for girls. Its good to warm up talking to girls when soberish, but as the night goes on and i build some momentum, if i'm drunk and i'm feeling good, i can feel like i'm unstoppable and i'm like on autopilot.
 

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gravityeyelids said:
yeaa if it's a one on one date try to restrain yourself. The only exception might be if she is also smashed. I would say a good rule is to always be a bit more sober than her so you can keep your wits about you.

If you're talking about socializing at a party or something...that's different. Not gonna lie, i like to get drunk before i start really going for girls. Its good to warm up talking to girls when soberish, but as the night goes on and i build some momentum, if i'm drunk and i'm feeling good, i can feel like i'm unstoppable and i'm like on autopilot.
Absolutely, I'm definitely not going to stop drinking for when I'm cold approaching, although maybe I'll drink a bit less.

The situations I've been talking about have been one on one, where I've ended up so drunk it was difficult to speak. I know it sounds stupid but generally I dont find girls' company that interesting so drinking is a way of entertaining myself. But it really lowers their interest, which I can understand. It's literally blown up the last four dates I had. My ideal date would be a girl who will match me drink for drink but I don't seem to be finding those party hard girls, more the one glass of wine, then I'm done. It's boring. Im a finance lawyer, I'm around corporate tedes all day. When I play, I want to play hard.
 

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Yup alcohol puts me into God-mode where I am fearless. Went on a date on Thursday without any alcohol and it was great. First time in a while. Booze really just lowers my standards so I will hit on any remotely cute girl. Being sober made me realize I didn't really like the chick that much and that it wasn't worth hittin it. Drunk, I would have escalated and then probably regretted it the next day.

I am now going to do a mix of sober dates/ drunk picking up. Weekdays for sober dates, weekends for fun.
 

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Let's keep this thread updated boys. I've got some dates this week. Will do them sober and see how they go.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Alcohol can make u mess up the date. Going to try to not drink for a while and see how it goes.
 

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Yo'Mama said:
I finally have to admit that the dates where I don't drink or keep things to a glass or two of wine are going much better than the dates where I drink a bottle and a half of wine. The problem is the latter dates are more fun. I guess I just like getting smashed and talking/pulling girls, rather than trying to do the same sober.

Any of you guys relate?
I like masturbating but thats unproductive. Start focusing on the long term goals and forget the short term pleasures. Yes you might have more fun with alcohol but you wont accomplish your goal of keeping the girl around.

BTW. I've noticed the same also. More alcohol = less likely to see her again
 
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