You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I've personally found bars/clubs to be easier, but to each his own. Although it's a long story, but I think I'm goint to give daytime approaches a second shot.Originally posted by HOSS83
i've seen a few guys here say that cold approaches are a waste of time, and are only used to get your confidence up...
i've had similar, if not more success on cold approaches than in bar/club/party pickups..
anyone else think cold approaching is a waste of time?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Great Points! I think it's a legitimate and interesting topic as well. I've always heard that a cold approach without an IOI or AI will have a much lower probabiliity of success. Of course this doesn't mean it will have zero probability of success, but since time is a limited resource why purposefully neglect to take IOI into account when doing cold approaches?
Definetly. People who make excuses are afraid/ or dont have enough confidence to do them. I dont think you can become a true master withought being able to succesfully cold approach.