"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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By NC'ing do you risk other guys who haven't messed up getting in there?

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I'm wary that you can only control what you do. IF she has lowered IL from the week before and you know there's another guy in her life who hasn't f'd up yet, can NC really work or won't that just let him in further?

IT seems if you walk away that you let other guys in to take your spot, give him time to escalate etc. Will walking away and NC really raise her IL?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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No Contact means you are DONE! She's been dismissed from your life with no hope whatsoever of ANY kind of relationship. Maybe you are thinking of LJBFing her? No Contact is No Contact where she goes, what she does, and who she sees from there doesen't matter.
 
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by NC'ing do you risk other guys who haven't messed up getting in there?


Yes, absolutely, and getting over this fear, or at least projecting a lack of it toward a woman, is why NC works. The other guys are probably AFCs anyway.
 
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pikachu69 said:
IT seems if you walk away that you let other guys in to take your spot, give him time to escalate etc. Will walking away and NC really raise her IL?
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Your already done at this point.

NC is not full proof. Neither is trying to steal her back from her new guy.

NC will allow you to move on, keep your pride, and if the new guy doesn't pan out, you'll be the first thing on her mind.

Contacting her if she's into this other dude will likely kill whatever IL she still has as now she feels bad for hurting you, and you take your pride/frame and toss it out the window.
 
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What part of NO CONTACT is so difficult for you to understand? You're not trying to raise her IL by walking away, you dimwit! You walk away to LOWER YOUR IL in her, move on, and find another woman! You write thread after thread about the same stupid hor, asking the same stupid questions. Read the fvcking DJ bible, then read it again!

No contact means 'next,' 'later,' 'have a nice life,' 'kick rocks,' 'go bang the football team.' OF COURSE she's gonna go get fvcked by another guy. She probably already is anyway. If she gets with another guy, she will be doing you a favor, because, she'll leave you alone hopefully, and MAYBE you will take the fvcking hint, and game other women. Eat a bowl of clue flakes.

IF YOU'RE NOT MAKING PROGRESS WITH THE GIRL, GET THE HELL AWAY FROM HER, AND TRY FOR ANOTHER ONE, OR BETTER YET, SEVERAL MORE.

Sorry to be harsh, but you just dont get it. There's a ton of info on here that you can READ FOR YOURSELF, to make you more attractive to WOMEN. Plural. Meaning; this site isnt to help you get THAT ONE GIRL, its to help you get better with girlS, and rule number one is LOSE THE ONEITIS, and find other girlS. Comprende? How many more of us need to spell it out for you?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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horaholic said:
What part of NO CONTACT is so difficult for you to understand? You're not trying to raise her IL by walking away, you dimwit! You walk away to LOWER YOUR IL in her, move on, and find another woman! You write thread after thread about the same stupid hor, asking the same stupid questions. Read the fvcking DJ bible, then read it again!
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Well that pretty much sums it up. Follow horaholic's instructions.
 
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