Buying things to women will lead u to friends zone: truth or community myth?

[lokariototal]

I used to be a very sensitive guy. I wanted to make girls feel special and so forth, but after reading some of the books Im totally changed. Im kind of insensitive, I dont care about making her feel special and I never EVER buy anything to women. But at the same time I feel something in my game is missing, and i dont know if this is it. So, what do u think? Buying stuff for women helps, or is the formula for getting into friends zone?

 

[trent81]

There's nothing wrong with buying women something small and meaningful. Just make sure it's a girl that has proven to you that she DOES likes you. Don't buy something for her TO like you. Nothing wrong in paying for dates when you meet someone either. Just enjoy the moment. If you want to buy something go ahead, just don't expect anything in return. When I bought a gift for a girl that I liked it was because I knew that she was into me and would make her like me even more. I never bought a gift in hoping it would get her to like me.

 

[jophil28]

There's nothing wrong with buying women something small and meaningful. Just make sure it's a girl that has proven to you that she DOES likes you. Don't buy something for her TO like you. Nothing wrong in paying for dates when you meet someone either. Just enjoy the moment. If you want to buy something go ahead, just don't expect anything in return. When I bought a gift for a girl that I liked it was because I knew that she was into me and would make her like me even more. I never bought a gift in hoping it would get her to like me.

That is kind of close to the mark.

The rule of thumb is to invest your time and spend some money on a woman as a reward for desired behavior or as a gesture of your appreciation of her after she has qualified as a contender.
There was a time back in the day when men used money and gifts to ENTICE women into their lives. That worked when women LIKED men and were grateful for dating one. Then feminism came along and shot that deal in the foot by brainwashing women into regarding men as "the enemy".
However most men make the mistake of still trying to "buy" a woman's attention, time and affection. The b!tchier she acts, the more the chump spends.

No wonder women have 'that attitude'..

 

[zekko]

I don't buy things for women very often, but I almost always pick up the check if we go out to eat. Just out of habit, I guess.

 

[jophil28]

I don't buy things for women very often, but I almost always pick up the check if we go out to eat. Just out of habit, I guess.

Yeh, I see that you are 'old school ' too, eh ?

 

[zekko]

Yeh, I see that you are 'old school ' too, eh ?

If by 'old school' you mean 'old', yeah apparently so

Seriously though, if we're eating out I never even think about it, I just pay. It doesn't even cross my mind. It just seems like something a man does, so I feel like a successful man if I pay I guess. I don't feel like I'm trying to buy affection though.
If the waitress is hot I always think she's taking note if I pay or not, lol.

 

[DonGorgon]

I used to be a very sensitive guy. I wanted to make girls feel special and so forth, but after reading some of the books Im totally changed. Im kind of insensitive, I dont care about making her feel special and I never EVER buy anything to women. But at the same time I feel something in my game is missing, and i dont know if this is it. So, what do u think? Buying stuff for women helps, or is the formula for getting into friends zone?

most females do not respect you when you spend money on them.. they think you are desperate and trying to use money cause you cant attract them with out it which for many men is true..