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"Buy me uber eats?" Red flag discussion

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Men,

Ahhh it doesn't take long for the red flags to peak does it? Dating this girl for about a month, somewhat normal girl and nice, which is a hard right from my usual strippers, bartenders, bottle service, and instaslvts. So that's nice, she refereed to us as boyfriend/girlfriend which I politely said, not yet, but we certainly have the potential to go that way, she politely accepted this. This didn't bother me, what did was out of nowhere one day, she texted me:

"Babe can you buy me Uber eats and I'll trade if for a nice massage when I see you." (texted while I was on a 12 hour shift w no chance of sharing this meal with her)

I'm 38, she's 28, you are a grown woman, why the hell should I be buying you lunch when we are not on a date. My reply was simply, "I don't do uber eats. But I look forward to our next in person date." I also feel like this is the slight testing of the door to turn us men into ATM's... Should I be wary of this? Or is it all good and she was just being fun/playful?

Thanks as always men for any insight, advice, and good old trolling comments!
 

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You are already paying for her on dates, right?
 

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I salute you, my man. You just avoided opening the floodgates.....

* It starts with "can you buy me uber eats...???..."

* then it becomes "can you front me some gas money...???"

* then it's "can you help me out with rent...???"

* then it's "....you owe alimony and child support...."
 

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You are already paying for her on dates, right?
I may as well say what I was going to say after you reply with "yes I have been" as we know is the case.

You have already set a precedent of bribing her to be with her. Now, she is actually giving you something back for your bribes - and that's when you react??? First, you already set a precedent of bribery which is bad enough. But then second, why is it somehow now worse that she offers you a massage plus her presence instead of only her presence that you were already content to pay for? WTF dude, LOL.

You need to understand how your behavior is affecting your interactions to set bad precedents. All I can do is once again hopelessly advice you to stop being a simp, I don't get what it is with you guys and insisting on simping. Women can and should pay for themselves, and it is evidently a big deal to the relationship that they do so regardless of it not being a big deal to you. It's the symbolism.

If you don't respect yourself, how could they? Stop being a simp!
 
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I salute you, my man. You just avoided opening the floodgates.....

* It starts with "can you buy me uber eats...???..."

* then it becomes "can you front me some gas money...???"

* then it's "can you help me out with rent...???"

* then it's "....you owe alimony and child support...."
This. If you were with her, that's one thing. It was a test to see how'd you respond. You passed my friend.
 

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In the future, if you don’t want women treating you this way, stop acting so desperate.
 

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Ahhh it doesn't take long for the red flags to peak does it?
No.

Often, if the guy knows how to act. there are no red flags.
Often, if there are red flags, it takes a long time to show up.
Often, if there are red flags, they don’t peak

Dating this girl for about a month, somewhat normal girl and nice, which is a hard right from my usual strippers, bartenders, bottle service, and instaslvts.
Where did you meet this girl, at the library?

I also feel like this is the slight testing of the door to turn us men into ATM's... Should I be wary of this? Or is it all good and she was just being fun/playful?

Thanks as always men for any insight, advice, and good old trolling comments!
It’s definitely good you put your foot down. We can’t have available single nice decent girls in their late 20s asking us to do simple favours for them when we are pushing 40. Screw that. You are right to be wary,

Oh, and when someone says “thanks for good old trolling comments”, he has shown his hand.
 
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I may as well say what I was going to say after you reply with "yes I have been" as we know is the case.

You have already set a precedent of bribing her to be with her. Now, she is actually giving you something back for your bribes - and that's when you react??? First, you already set a precedent of bribery which is bad enough. But then second, why is it somehow now worse that she offers you a massage plus her presence instead of only her presence that you were already content to pay for? WTF dude, LOL.

You need to understand how your behavior is affecting your interactions to set bad precedents. All I can do is once again hopelessly advice you to stop being a simp, I don't get what it is with you guys and insisting on simping. Women can and should pay for themselves, and it is evidently a big deal to the relationship that they do so regardless of it not being a big deal to you. It's the symbolism.

If you don't respect yourself, how could they? Stop being a simp!
What's your system for having them pay? Feel free to DM me. As I've said before I'll prob never do it w my salary, just not in my nature. But I'd love to learn the system, results, etc.
 

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Men,

Ahhh it doesn't take long for the red flags to peak does it? Dating this girl for about a month, somewhat normal girl and nice, which is a hard right from my usual strippers, bartenders, bottle service, and instaslvts. So that's nice, she refereed to us as boyfriend/girlfriend which I politely said, not yet, but we certainly have the potential to go that way, she politely accepted this. This didn't bother me, what did was out of nowhere one day, she texted me:

"Babe can you buy me Uber eats and I'll trade if for a nice massage when I see you." (texted while I was on a 12 hour shift w no chance of sharing this meal with her)

I'm 38, she's 28, you are a grown woman, why the hell should I be buying you lunch when we are not on a date. My reply was simply, "I don't do uber eats. But I look forward to our next in person date." I also feel like this is the slight testing of the door to turn us men into ATM's... Should I be wary of this? Or is it all good and she was just being fun/playful?

Thanks as always men for any insight, advice, and good old trolling comments!
What did you expect?

I have one female aquaintance (32) that dates 28 year old guy and other (34) phucking even younger guys.

When you date so much younger you are usually recruited for your M and S, not necessarily for your L.
 

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What's your system for having them pay? Feel free to DM me. As I've said before I'll prob never do it w my salary, just not in my nature. But I'd love to learn the system, results, etc.
I disagree with attack on this.

Its ok to be paying for date, what i see as a problem is that she thinks its ok to ask for this.
This tells you alot on how she thinks.
A women that values you would not risk asking for something this insignificant because it make her look bad.

Red flag man
 

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She ain't nice. This scam has been run before. Probably to the bitter end of some poor sucker.

Demote to low girl on roster. Or help her with her seeking arrangements profile and demand a cut.
I've read it online dozens of times, but I just do not know how any dud in their right mind would do this. I wouldn't do this in a relationship; let a lone just dating. It cannot be this wide spread. Paying for food when you are not even there? WTF
 

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Men,

Ahhh it doesn't take long for the red flags to peak does it? Dating this girl for about a month, somewhat normal girl and nice, which is a hard right from my usual strippers, bartenders, bottle service, and instaslvts. So that's nice, she refereed to us as boyfriend/girlfriend which I politely said, not yet, but we certainly have the potential to go that way, she politely accepted this. This didn't bother me, what did was out of nowhere one day, she texted me:

"Babe can you buy me Uber eats and I'll trade if for a nice massage when I see you." (texted while I was on a 12 hour shift w no chance of sharing this meal with her)

I'm 38, she's 28, you are a grown woman, why the hell should I be buying you lunch when we are not on a date. My reply was simply, "I don't do uber eats. But I look forward to our next in person date." I also feel like this is the slight testing of the door to turn us men into ATM's... Should I be wary of this? Or is it all good and she was just being fun/playful?

Thanks as always men for any insight, advice, and good old trolling comments!
Compliance test. You handled it well.
 

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What's your system for having them pay? Feel free to DM me. As I've said before I'll prob never do it w my salary, just not in my nature. But I'd love to learn the system, results, etc.

The last two GF I had, I paid for first date, no questions asked. If I liked them and saw potential for a relationship, then on the 2nd or 3rd date, I would flat out tell them, that I don't pay anyone else's way, that I expected us to both contribute.

Both accepted this, although the first never gave up on trying to get me to pay more....including the "exchanges" you referred to.

I don't pay for sex. Period. My time is as valuable as hers, my value is at least as high as hers. There is no reason for me to pay someone to spend time with me.
 

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The last two GF I had, I paid for first date, no questions asked. If I liked them and saw potential for a relationship, then on the 2nd or 3rd date, I would flat out tell them, that I don't pay anyone else's way, that I expected us to both contribute.

Both accepted this, although the first never gave up on trying to get me to pay more....including the "exchanges" you referred to.

I don't pay for sex. Period. My time is as valuable as hers, my value is at least as high as hers. There is no reason for me to pay someone to spend time with me.
Good mindset.

Sex is not a favor women do for us, if they dont enjoy it or want it with me i want nothing to do wiith them.
 
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