But you will have to come over!

[DonJuanit0]

There is this girl I know for some years now, but our relationship has reached a point where she knows I am trying to get her and she flirts with me. Anyway, I think she talks with an ex of her, which I play like I don't care, since she told me, on her own, that she is alone at this period of time. So, I sent her a message and asked her what she is doing tomorrow night, I had told her 3 days ago that we could hang around one of these days at my place for a movie or something.

(today)
-What are you doin tomorrow night?
-Probably nothin but if you wanna watch a movie, you should come over my place!

She lives with her parents so it's not like the same as being at my place, if she would come to my house it would be certain that we would do something and she knows it as well. Is she trying to avoid that or just wants to feel safe in her house? I'm over analysing this and I should probably just go and take the shot, which I will do, I don't really care about losing her as a 'friend' or something.

In her house though, so much more difficult! Any insight?

 

[DonJuanit0]

But I will go, the matter is not of going or not. I was just thinking that she kinda wants to avoid me taking action! It's obvious it is harder for me to do something at her place although we will be alone in the room! I have never met this before, we could, BUT AT MY PLACE! I've been there 100 times. I'm thinking of going for it anyway, not at the beginning but eventually at some point of the night!

 

[DonJuanit0]

I wouldn't even try to analyze or figure anything out. Just keep things simple. It's a step in the right direction, in my opinion.

She knows you want to fvuck her at your place. You've already invited her. I wouldn't do it again.

I won't invite her again! In your opinion, do I make the move anyway?

 

[Willard]

Yes make a move, a least kiss her, ask her if her parents might walk in on you before you try to bang her, if they might go to her room.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I would have just told her I don't want to hang out with her parents. I don't care if it's some kind of acceptance or not. I'm not going on lame dates with girls that only flirt with me, come do something cool with me at the very least or nothing at all. It's time to grow the F up, at your age people are getting married.

Flirting is a form of manipulation, and so is changing the date like that, i'm not biting. We are going to spend time on my terms or none at all.

Go to her place and i'm playing by her rules and setting a precedent that not only will I do something lame just to be with her but that I accept a relationship with her since i'm going to hang out with her parents kinda thing. The whole thing seems kinda friendzoney to me TBH...

Fuuck that

She either trusts i'm a gentleman or not. I'm not catering to insecurities and doubts. If i'm not banging a girl i'm definitely not going to her house to hang with her parents.

I mean just think about it, if she was hot for you she would want to be alone. And just doing what she says is only going to push her away from you not bring her in. Stop being so nice. I bet she tries to friend zone you if you go.

This is textbook friend zone crap.

 

[DonJuanit0]

I would have just told her I don't want to hang out with her parents. I don't care if it's some kind of acceptance or not. I'm not going on lame dates with girls that only flirt with me, come do something cool with me or nothing at all.

Flirting is a form of manipulation, and so is changing the date like that. We are going to spend time on my terms or none at all.

Go to her place and i'm playing by her rules and setting a precedent that not only will I do something lame just to be with her but that I accept a relationship with her since i'm going to hang out with her parents kinda thing. The whole thing seems kinda friendzoney to me TBH...

Fuuck that

She either trusts i'm a gentleman or not. I'm not catering to insecurities and doubts. If i'm not banging a girl i'm definitely not going to her house to hang with her parents.

I mean just think about it, if she was hot for you she would want to be alone. And just doing what she says is only going to push her away from you not bring her in. Stop being so nice.

We will be alone! Just not in the whole house! I will probably see her parents for like 5 mins or something I guess! We were on a date 3 days ago, and after that date I offered her the movie thing. I wouldn't propose home otherwise! I know your last point is right and I did thought of that, but, I'm thinking that she might not want to go all the way or at least feel a bit safer. Because she doesn't want me or just for the sake of safety to stop me whenever she wants!

I will go, I want and I will clear things out, I am not getting friend zoned cause I will walk away the very moment she says something like that! What I ask here is, does this (she saying that she wants to do it over her place) is a sign that she doesn't really want to? And maybe she does it because she just wants to get rid of me asking? (I haven't asked multiple times of course, just twice, when I gave her the idea to which she answered yeah in the week, and today by asking her if tomorrow is a good day)

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Yeah, sounds like FZ manipulation. Seems like LI to me. Either that, or this is a strange form of ASD, but, going by your history with her, I'd say low interest.

Personally, I'd accept like it's no big deal then cancel right before hand. Say something came up and leave it vague.

 

[VladPatton]

Select a long and boring movie. When her parents fall asleep, say it's intermission time, unzip and mouth bang her right there!

 

[DonJuanit0]

Select a long and boring movie. When her parents fall asleep, say it's intermission time, unzip and mouth bang her right there!

What about raping her in front of her parents? That would be better IMO.

On the first date 3 days ago, I applied kino, we were holding hands all the time, she was even holding mine when I wasn't doing anything! She kissed me on the chick multiple times. I didn't make the move then cause her brother was near by (yes I was so dumb to pick the place where her brother hangs out). I didn't feel like doing it in front of him cause I know him for a long time.

I do not know if it is a friend zone thing, I am just not sure, that's why I wanted to bring an end to it. I am not of the guys who want female friends so it won't hurt me not seeing her at all after that. I was planning on doing it at my place and just accept what happens. I guess it will happen at her place!

 

[SgtSplacker]

We will be alone! Just not in the whole house! I will probably see her parents for like 5 mins or something I guess! We were on a date 3 days ago, and after that date I offered her the movie thing. I wouldn't propose home otherwise! I know your last point is right and I did thought of that, but, I'm thinking that she might not want to go all the way or at least feel a bit safer. Because she doesn't want me or just for the sake of safety to stop me whenever she wants!

I will go, I want and I will clear things out, I am not getting friend zoned cause I will walk away the very moment she says something like that! What I ask here is, does this (she saying that she wants to do it over her place) is a sign that she doesn't really want to? And maybe she does it because she just wants to get rid of me asking? (I haven't asked multiple times of course, just twice, when I gave her the idea to which she answered yeah in the week, and today by asking her if tomorrow is a good day)

Meh you guys are young wouldn't hurt to give it a go I guess, those house invites are more common at your age.

 

[Masculinity]

Select a long and boring movie. When her parents fall asleep, say it's intermission time, unzip and mouth bang her right there!

This is exactly what I would do ^

I don't understand how so many guys in here are coming up with clinical diagnoses or making inferences that are way beyond the information given. It only demonstrates how low being in your head can take you.

Have any of you thought that she is inviting him over because she wants to feel safe in her place? Some women are very intimated by men. Low IL? No way. You are leaving out the part where she is inviting him over. If you took out the whole "it's her parent's place" situation, a girl inviting you over would be a green signal of sex right or at least high IL? I highly doubt the present situation demonstrates a lack of interest. If anything, it demonstrates high interest.

I had a girl invite me over to her place. It was our second date. She bought her parents tickets to the movies that night and we were alone in her house. We watched a movie, talked, and made out. When her parents came back, they went upstairs. Did I let that phase me? Heck to the no. I stayed in there and kept escalating. She ended up blowing me in the living room. Fast forward a week later...we were having sex in her Jeep at 1am. Patience is a virtue.

Being too pushy for sex can have exactly the same effect that being a wussy has: both of them will repel women. OP, it is time to stop overanalyzing and time to see where the current takes you. Go over to her house, make it awesome, and come back to tell us a success story.

Enough said.

 

[Masculinity]

Any updates on this thread, OP? I am curious about what happened.

 

[TheGambino]

This is exactly what I would do ^

I don't understand how so many guys in here are coming up with clinical diagnoses or making inferences that are way beyond the information given. It only demonstrates how low being in your head can take you.

Have any of you thought that she is inviting him over because she wants to feel safe in her place? Some women are very intimated by men. Low IL? No way. You are leaving out the part where she is inviting him over. If you took out the whole "it's her parent's place" situation, a girl inviting you over would be a green signal of sex right or at least high IL? I highly doubt the present situation demonstrates a lack of interest. If anything, it demonstrates high interest.

I had a girl invite me over to her place. It was our second date. She bought her parents tickets to the movies that night and we were alone in her house. We watched a movie, talked, and made out. When her parents came back, they went upstairs. Did I let that phase me? Heck to the no. I stayed in there and kept escalating. She ended up blowing me in the living room. Fast forward a week later...we were having sex in her Jeep at 1am. Patience is a virtue.

Being too pushy for sex can have exactly the same effect that being a wussy has: both of them will repel women. OP, it is time to stop overanalyzing and time to see where the current takes you. Go over to her house, make it awesome, and come back to tell us a success story.

Enough said.

Nailed it, go for it OP I got nothing to add

 

[Thorninmyside]

I've watched movies with a girl and her parents while she jerked me off under a blanket after they nodded off, so anything is possible. Except sleeping with that blanket afterwards, lol.