"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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But What Did SHE Get YOU For Valentines?

WaterTiger

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I was just glancing over JPforTally's thread about how Valentines Day is a holiday for chumps, paying out for women. I always bought my boyfriend's nice gifts, dinner and such. Are you guys telling me that your girlfriends aren't doing ANYTHING to make you feel special???

If they did get you something, what was it?

If they DID NOT get you anything, what do you wish you got?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She got me a Candy box of Reeses and a card. I got her the same with two rose assortment
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Just a couple of invitations for a post Valentines weekend get together. I'm guessing that these women didn't want to pressure me into thinking that we're exclusive and had to do an "official" Valentines get together. It's so much easier when they are trained. ;)
 

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But that's my point... Why do you have to get somebody something on this stupid made up holiday?

I never said women don't get men anything - though from my experience women usually aren't as obligated to get the man as expensive a gift, if anything at all. I just said that most men go through the entire hassle not because they want to - but because they feel they have to in order to avoid strife.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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JPFromTally said:
But that's my point... Why do you have to get somebody something on this stupid made up holiday?

I never said women don't get men anything - though from my experience women usually aren't as obligated to get the man as expensive a gift, if anything at all. I just said that most men go through the entire hassle not because they want to - but because they feel they have to in order to avoid strife.
Only twice in my life I have had women send flowers to me in the office. It was kinda cool. Oh yeah, a woman did leave some candy and a card at my desk yesterday.
 

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WaterTiger said:
I was just glancing over JPforTally's thread about how Valentines Day is a holiday for chumps, paying out for women. I always bought my boyfriend's nice gifts, dinner and such. Are you guys telling me that your girlfriends aren't doing ANYTHING to make you feel special???

If they did get you something, what was it?

If they DID NOT get you anything, what do you wish you got?
My ex-gf ALWAYS gave me presents. Even on ordinary days.

I almost never gave her anything. Not because of "playa skillz" or anything, I was just too fvcking broke! She knew it. She paid concerts when I did not have the cash, movies, etc.

It's a giving frame I guess. She was also VERY good in bed, like she loved to please me. And took care of me when I was sick.

Yes, it is a giving frame. :D
 

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She got me a bunch of little things. Mostly personal and inside joke kind of things. She bought plastic handcuffs from the 99 cent store, a small cheap box of chocolates, a box of the candy - nerds to joke that im a nerd, a big chocalate fish in a box that says "your a keeper" and a frame with a picture of us in it.
 

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plate1 - stopped by her house real quick gave her a small teddy bear + gummy bears, cost me $4 total. got a small cake in return

plate2 - ended up spending the evening with her. got her a small teddy bear + gummy bears, again $4. she paid for my drinks at the bar

pretty even all in all I think, since neither of them are LTRs
 

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She got me a Gen 5 Ipod.

I got her some plants for her balcony - she just moved. I figured they would last longer than flowers - and picked up ther dinner tab.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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godsgifttowomen said:
I had a girl buy me a $100 Fossil watch. I didn't get her anything. Kinda felt a little bad for a minute. But then I remembered I gave her one of my rings I've had for like 6 years. It cost me about $10 back in the day.

GGTW
LOL.

Gimme the girl's number.
I got some quarters I need changed into $100s.
 
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