But... this girl is different....

[Caveman]

Just a warning for a trap that even experienced DJs can fall for:

>>Never ONCE believe that the girl you have the hots for is different from any other girl<<

Don't start feeling bad about 'playing games' just because you believe this girl is a sweet girl.

This site has helped me in ways that I can't even begin to describe and yet I suffered a serious case of oneitis because I refused to believe I had to play games with this one. The fact is: ALL girls like to be DJ-ed and pull an ugly face on you just as soon as you start slacking.

Hope this will prevent other guys from making this mistake.

 

[frivolousz21]

so what do u want me to do?

if I fall in love..should I just always be ****ed up in the head and believe she will **** me over..??????

I think the pessimism is useless!

look..say I fall in love and think she is amazing..and we have a great time....if she ****s me over..leaves me, hurts me, gets rid of me..then so be it..Ill get past it..and be back out on the game in no time.

but there comes a time where u have to take that risk

 

[Caveman]

Maybe you're right, frivolousz21.

I guess I'm still pissed or hurt or whatever. So maybe I am only being pessimistic.. The point is: you forget how ****ty it feels to go through a bad break-up. I just know I am never going to slack again.

 

[GaryNas]

Originally posted by frivolousz21

look..say I fall in love and think she is amazing..and we have a great time....if she ****s me over..leaves me, hurts me, gets rid of me..then so be it..Ill get past it..and be back out on the game in no time.

but there comes a time where u have to take that risk

Agree'd. I remember in the movie "Something's Gotta Give", Amanda Peet is scared about falling in love because she may get hurt, but her mom tells her that falling in love is the greatest thing that can happen to you, even if it ends up hurting. I've been there and it's very true. Even though my breakup hurt like hell, I would do it all over again in a heartbeat.

Even with a girl I've only been seriously seeing for two weeks I'm starting to drop my "DJ" stuff and get into more of a relationship with her.

 

[DJDamage]

This is what seperates the men from the boys.

Always know when you enter a relationship with a woman that something bad could happen ie, she could get pregnant, give you std, cheat on you and so on. Not to look only at the negative aspect of it but just know that you are taking a responsibility on your hands and you should not take things lightly.

Some things can be out of your control like accidents and you cannot be responsible for the actions of others. Your own attitude and reaction of what happens when life throws you a curveball is the key. Be true to yourself and your own beliefs and don't slack off in a relationship. If you see something in the relationship that you do not like you are better off to nip it in the bud before it gets too big to handle and out of your control.

Its not how many times you are knocked down that counts, but how many times you are able to get up.

 

[Caveman]

Wow..

Actually, the scar is still fresh but you guys are making me feel better already. You are all right and in a few days I'll probably be as good as new..

I just never thought I'd be this hurt again..

DJ Damage is right though.. slacking off is never a good thing..

 

[frivolousz21]

just take the expierence you learn from this..now you might think you missed something..but you probably just didnt know what u were missing..as in the girl and what went wrong.

believe me..at this point..I will know if she is really in love with me or not before it goes that far....because of all my past expiernces good and bad..I know what it is now that I was missing out on..or doing wrong.

and even if this time..I fail again...I dont care..I will go back and do it over again..there is nothing better than love, weather is a person, place or thing...being a DJ just means u are better for it !

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by frivolousz21
so what do u want me to do?

if I fall in love..should I just always be ****ed up in the head and believe she will **** me over..??????

I think the pessimism is useless!

The point is that the "war" is ALWAYS going on.

The guys who find good women and STAY married to them...are the ones who have FUN doing what you look at as "work". They naturally play women...continuously. It's a part of who they are, not a set of routines you use until you've got her and then stop.

You don't HAVE to worry about her f**king you over...even though she will if you let her. The thing is that you'll never let her. It's not in your nature to let her.

That's the point you have to reach.

 

[Caveman]

Originally posted by squirrels
You don't HAVE to worry about her f**king you over...even though she will if you let her. The thing is that you'll never let her. It's not in your nature to let her.

That's the point you have to reach.

Excellent.. I guess this is what I've been trying to say.. or reach if you will..

 

[Luveno]

I think what is useful is to think not that this girl isn't different, but to think that you can live without this girl just fine. If things go well, great. If things don't, great. Who cares?

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Love is the delusion that one woman differs from another

This is the key to putting ONEitis into perspective. There are some good Ones and there are some bad Ones, but there is no ONE.

 

[SpeedRunner]

Nah, I dont want to fall in love right now.

right now im looking for dating and str's... nothing special. i just want to have fun with a girl right now, not really worrying about cuddly feelings stuff.. but thats just me

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

listen its not about not letting your guard down, once you knock her off the pederstall and 'win' you do not need to play these games, just dont be a walk over.

You may think no if i do this she will think imf AFC and stop liking me.

well thats just not true, you got her now and as long as you still act like a man and have confidence shes not going to loose intrest in you because you are not 'playing games with her'

just remember that even in an LTR you have to keep the relationship up, just because you are in an LTR does not mena you should stop dating, you must still cary on dating and suprise her, cary on doing the things that made her like you in the first place. Many relationships break down because you start to just hang out instead of dating her!