Busy LTR Material

[pandapanda]

Interesting relationship. She kind of sounds like a "Rules Girl". A DJ's Antimatter. It seems like a lot of swerving and swaying on her part only to get back on course later after realizing. She most definitely is setting up the rules of the relationship as evan12 stated. I don't do this before 4 months, I don't do that before this happens, then that, and this, blah blah. Ok, fine, but! Will all this be worth it in the end? What the fück are you doing in bed with her if she isn't down to get it on??? That's a cὀck tease and a half. That's like starving, having a steak in front of you and just smelling it without eating it.

In all reality you do NOT know what went on with the ex-bf meet up and you never will. Anything could of happened. She could of had a threesome with them, or nothing but conversation. Either way, it didn't merit a drop-all action that left you in the wind. Hell, just say that you're meeting an old gf for dinner one night.. I bet it'll piss her off royaly! Give no excuses or apologies after.

The question here is will all this be worth it in the end? I can just imagine her complaining during sex about this position, and that. Maybe she won't suck you off until 3 years of marriage.

I dunno man..sounds a little hairy. Keep one foot out the door, and realize what's going on big-picture-wise. Good luck, hold your integrity, and don't get shıt on!

Thanks for the reality check, man. I would say that yeah, she's a little more rule-based than I'm used to and her biggest obstacle is in being flexible. I am qualifying her on that point.

IDK what happened but her behavior changed suddenly one day when I made clear that I was ready to walk. I didn't say it, I just made it clear through my actions. At this point, she is mine physically for whatever I want. I'm taking it slow on going all the way, and it is driving her nuts, in a good way. She digs being teased etc despite whatever feminist drivel she learned in school.

Could it all be an act? OF COURSE. That is why I'm being smart about it. She might be exclusive but I've said NOTHING to indicate that I'm extending the same arrangement to her. I still go out with friends and that's just how it is.

As for the ex-BF thing, I know nothing happened because she was headed to my place an hour or so after they met up.

Agree with you all -- will proceed with caution.