"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Business

How many of you have a business?

What is it?(industry?)
How much do you put in it a week (time-wise)?
Make a good living doing it?:rockon:
How you making out through this sh!t of a time?

(I’m expecting very few replies, I know this board:rolleyes: .)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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spider_007 said:
Business

How many of you have a business?

What is it?(industry?)
I have several projects going on but I do not care to disclose them here.

How much do you put in it a week (time-wise)?
Right now? Quite a few. But it can vary from very few to astronomical depending upon what's going on.

Make a good living doing it?:rockon:
That is a very subjective question, but let's just say that you shouldn't expect to make a bunch of money for at least 5-10 years. If you do, great....but expect to barely be able to pay your bills (in some cases not even that) during the learning curve.

How you making out through this sh!t of a time?
It sucks but that's why I have many irons in the fire.
 

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spider_007 said:
Business

How many of you have a business?

What is it?(industry?)
How much do you put in it a week (time-wise)?
Make a good living doing it?:rockon:
How you making out through this sh!t of a time?

(I’m expecting very few replies, I know this board:rolleyes: .)

old computer company I sold almost 4 years ago, but now I own black 17 media Inc black17media.com, not as much time as I should, It's not my top prority but it's too easy money, about 45 hours a week which is nothing. I made a good living before this but it's a 6 figure gig. Actually business has stayed pretty even durning all this. Alot more people want to be self employed and need webistes.

I also own my own horse racing stable, but it really isn't a stable yet becuase all I own now are 4 broodmares, no actual race horses yet, 3 drop here in the next 2 months with babies and one is just in foal as of 2 weeks ago.
 

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could have guessed it would be you two

I'm sitting on a sinking ship (more like a sinking industry in a sinking town).....I guess i'll just have take the plunge sometime this year and strike out on my own. In a way i'm happy about it - but REALLY nervous.
 

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let me guess... auto/ banking industry?

owning a business is alot like working out. you have to start off small and keep working to see the results you want.

My love of horse racing has really put me in my right place, in the sense that when I was in arknasas, I was extremely successful. I remember I went to a celeberity bowling event and I knew damn near all of the celeberties (little rock based)and they knew me. I got out here in SoCal and got more into horse racing ownership and go to sales, and while I'm pretty well off, I personally know people who **** my income for breakfast. that was really the motivating factor for me to get back into business, not the money, I don't need it, but I haven't hit my peek yet. I have alot to learn, and this is more a learning experience than anything else. for god's sake i'm 25. You got to do something.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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backbreaker said:
let me guess... auto/ banking industry?
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...for god's sake i'm 25. You got to do something.

yup.:( i'm on the tooling end for auto industry, in a Cnd. city right accross the border from detroit. It's getting BAD!!!

The messed up thing is i'll have to learn a new skill quick. Usually people start a business in things they know. The industry, and skills i know are getting useless now. So i'll have to do something totaly different from what i've been doing for last 8 years.

yea, now is the time to make mistakes....when we are young and have the energy, and time.
 

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what exactly is your skillset?

For instance, I'm by trade, a computer tech guy. When I got out of the first business I had, I didn't know what I could do If I ever went back into business.

What I realized is that I picked up skills when I was in that business, in particular, I learned how to manage **** and sale. So now I manage web projects and sale web development services.

Do you have any cross talent services you can offer?
 

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my biggest skills are; Computer Aided Drafting (current job), and my Skills as General Machinist (basicly making metal components all shapes and sizes)

I guess i'll have to sit down with pen and a paper and figure out, what other skills i have, and where i can fit in, in the big picture.
 
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