"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
darthsidious
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PVSSY-EATER
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if you want to put something on your business card, put something on it that will relate to clients knowing that you care about them in the honest and sincere way. Leave business for caring, and putting other peoples needs and wants above yours, and let your personal life with women be about the opposite.
I guess they would be called Pimp cards?
My admin orders my cards for me when I need them, so I don't know the name of the printer; I'd imagine it's someone local here in Seattle. Go with heavy stock (anything other than white) and raised lettering. Don't be cheap, and don't get rainbows or American flags or any $#!+ like that. Your name, what you do, and how to reach you. You can get a couple hundred nice ones made up for fifty bucks.
I just had an associate give me a metal business card, on gold-colored metal. Looks trick. I can't imagine what they cost, though.
Something I've seen lately, and mostly in D.C., is a plain business card that just has your name and your phone / email; no mention of what you do or for whom. Personally, I think it's lame but it seems to be all the rage in the Adams Morgan scene. I've seen this in Europe, too. You might try something like this if you just want a "Pimp Card."
Hope this helps.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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no offense man, but any girl that gives out her # so often that she needs a card for it is a sl*t. hope you double bagged it.
I'm a (newly promoted) Director for a consulting firm that has an office on each coast and two more in Europe (all listed on my card along with the HQ's main address in Geneva), and my work gives me tons of cool stories to tell. Subsequently, I shoot my card out like confetti. And it explains my shoes.
If yours says "Shipping / Receiving Associate," you might not want to flaunt it as much as I do mine.
The more I think about it, the more I like the idea of a D.C.-style "Pimp Card" -- name, email, AIM, phone -- for those with more mainstream gigs.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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andari
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This is true. they do it like that here with the cards......because here there are actually corporate personel who have thier cards designed like that.