burnt out

[MacAvoy]

I've only been posting for about 3-4 days, trying to help share my knowledge and I'm already burnt out. Its the exact same thing thread after thread, how do I get my ex back. I've even got guys PM'ing me, I need your help, I've seen your posts and need your opinion on my situation.

Well its pointless because I know he's not going to do what we say because we are telling them the exact opposite of what they want to hear. Now I know why I only offer advice once in a while, it burns you out, then you need a break. Now I've had some free time lately and don't mind giving back.

The thing is I know I've been in the exact same situation as the posters that I'm trying to help. Now I know I had more knowledge that most of them and I heard what everyone was telling me but I thought I could use my knowledge and step back it a bit, even though I was in love and try to play the game but I was still making all the classic mistakes.

Is there really even a point? If I with all my knowledge, wouldn't listen, why would someone without the knowledge that this stuff works, listen? I've even made posts about how being AFC is like a drug addict. They need their fix of that special one, not even a dose of a different drug will do the trick, trust me I've spent 3 years longing for drug A, tried drug B to Z and nothing until I realied I had to go to rehab for drug A before I could move on with my life.

So are we really making a difference? In the short term I say for the most part NO, but hopefully a year or two later, guys can take off their blinders, realize where they screwed up and start applying the principles to their daily lives.

However I know were all still vulnerable. I still made some classic mistakes, now granted with my skills, I was able to keep gettin what I wanted but in the end, I never got what I truly wanted. Why because I wasn't willing to play hard ball when I needed to.

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[My Name is Nobody]

This stuff is a long process. It always starts with wanting to get an EX back. This can go on for YEARS with some guys obsessing about there EX's.

The thing people need to realize is that it is much easier to just go out and meet someone new than sit around worrying about an ex which I consider wasting your life.

 

[MacAvoy]

I don't know if its just this site or me in general. When I was thinking about coming back home, I thought I'd go on a rampage, nailing all the women in site as I'm well known in the community and have always been one of the available bachelors. But I just don't have any real interest.

I'm enjoying the time to myself. It was close to 2 weeks before I hooked up with one of my old FB's. Even that wasn't all that appealing, I just did it cuz she really wanted it. I've had other chances but I've got no interest.

I'm happy with being alone for now. I'm also happy that I can be happy being alone. I remember one year I had it so bad, I would not sleep alone, I had about 3 different women and I HAD to physically sleep with one of them, I could not be alone.

I don't know what the future holds and I don't really care. I know it will be fun.

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[My Name is Nobody]

Good for you, maybe you just need this "break from women" everybody has been talking about.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Unplugging chumps from the Matrix is dirty work.

 

[JohnnyIrish]

I don't know if its just this site or me in general. When I was thinking about coming back home, I thought I'd go on a rampage, nailing all the women in site as I'm well known in the community and have always been one of the available bachelors. But I just don't have any real interest.

I'm enjoying the time to myself. It was close to 2 weeks before I hooked up with one of my old FB's. Even that wasn't all that appealing, I just did it cuz she really wanted it. I've had other chances but I've got no interest.

I'm happy with being alone for now. I'm also happy that I can be happy being alone. I remember one year I had it so bad, I would not sleep alone, I had about 3 different women and I HAD to physically sleep with one of them, I could not be alone.

I don't know what the future holds and I don't really care. I know it will be fun.

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On the surface this board is all about getting laid.. but if one looks deeper its really about helping us all reach our full potential.. helping us achieve happiness. As I see it a good life requires a healthy balance. We all have needs and if sex isn't much of a driving force for ya right now then it sounds like there is something else you need right now thats even more important to you. If its time alone, go for it. If there are other things as well.. do those too. Relax and recharge in the way you need to.

As for helping those on the board who don't listen. Well it all comes down to the simple fact. You can't help someone until they are READY to be helped. Just because people come here and act like they want help.. it comes down to some of them just don't want it bad enough. As the saying goes "god helps those who helps themselves".

If its any consolation however, this board has been invaluable to me since I've joined months ago. It HAS made a difference to me and added to my path of continual improvement. So the words here do reach people.. they just have to reach people who are willing to get off their ass and be proactive with the wisdom being served. lol

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Unplugging chumps from the Matrix is dirty work.

LOL that was funny as hell but true.

 

[joekerr31]

as long as a man feels he 'needs' a woman, as opposed to simply 'wanting' one, he is a lost cause.

 

[JohnnyIrish]

as long as a man feels he 'needs' a woman, as opposed to simply 'wanting' one, he is a lost cause.

Very true.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...Is there really even a point? If I with all my knowledge, wouldn't listen, why would someone without the knowledge that this stuff works, listen? ....

You should consider rediscovering why you are here; exactly for whose benefit.

 

[MikeYikes122]

I don't know if its just this site or me in general. When I was thinking about coming back home, I thought I'd go on a rampage, nailing all the women in site as I'm well known in the community and have always been one of the available bachelors. But I just don't have any real interest.

I'm enjoying the time to myself. It was close to 2 weeks before I hooked up with one of my old FB's. Even that wasn't all that appealing, I just did it cuz she really wanted it. I've had other chances but I've got no interest.

Yeah, I know what you mean. I felt that exact same way for the last couple of weeks. For some reason, I just sat in my apartment alone and played video games after I got done with work everyday. I had lost both the plates I had spinning and didn't really even care. In fact, I really didn't even care enough to establish new ones. I went out and tried a couple of times in nightlife settings and in public to get something new and fresh going with some girls, but I just wasn't feeling it. I wasn't getting any satisfaction or thrill from the process and figured why bother establishing new plates if I didn't even give a damn.

Though, that kind of came and passed this weekend when I went out with some buddies. I was kind of in a rut and just had to go out and have a good time with some friends.

I'm happy with being alone for now. I'm also happy that I can be happy being alone. I remember one year I had it so bad, I would not sleep alone, I had about 3 different women and I HAD to physically sleep with one of them, I could not be alone.

I used to be like that too where I couldn't sleep alone. In fact, I used to have a problem where I couldn't be alone at all. I had to have someone around almost at all times to talk to and BS with, whether that be a friend or a girl. I had to force myself to learn to be able to be alone and entertain myself.

I think this site gives off the impression that it's best to be as outgoing and extroverted as you can possibly be. Both those qualities are good for confidence and attracting women, but I think a stable person needs to know how to be an introvert as well. You can accomplish a whole lot of inner growth when you are alone and with your own thoughts.

 

[paphnuitius]

Hi All;
I've been lurking on this site for some time, and reading this initial posting I thought I would step in a say a few comments.
Firstly; Thank goodness this site exists to let Men talk to Men about issues that relate to Men.

I can relate to the gentleman that says that he is burnt out; however we need to look at something. As real Men, we want to see results from our efforts. Sadly; it takes time for a fertile seed to grow. Give it time!!!

Years ago i had a scout master say to me... "Mean what you say, and Say what you Mean". Thirty years later I was asked to give a speech, and I used his words as my theme. As I lectured I saw a white haired gentleman daub at his eyes with a handkerchief. I walked up to him afterwords, and discovered my old scoutmaster. I just validated his life with that little talk. He waited many years for his results, but that little sprout bore fruit. Five hundred people heard his wisdom.

A Mans role is to fertilize, to make new growth. Share it, let it grow. You'll never know all of your impact; but by putting it out there; hopefully someone will learn.

Best to all.
Paphnuitius.

 

[Latinoman]

Hi All;
I've been lurking on this site for some time, and reading this initial posting I thought I would step in a say a few comments.
Firstly; Thank goodness this site exists to let Men talk to Men about issues that relate to Men.

I can relate to the gentleman that says that he is burnt out; however we need to look at something. As real Men, we want to see results from our efforts. Sadly; it takes time for a fertile seed to grow. Give it time!!!

Years ago i had a scout master say to me... "Mean what you say, and Say what you Mean". Thirty years later I was asked to give a speech, and I used his words as my theme. As I lectured I saw a white haired gentleman daub at his eyes with a handkerchief. I walked up to him afterwords, and discovered my old scoutmaster. I just validated his life with that little talk. He waited many years for his results, but that little sprout bore fruit. Five hundred people heard his wisdom.

A Mans role is to fertilize, to make new growth. Share it, let it grow. You'll never know all of your impact; but by putting it out there; hopefully someone will learn.

Best to all.
Paphnuitius.

I am glad I visited this thread. This is an OUTSTANDING post. I am almost 40 and I have been doing pretty well (thanks to decisions I made in my
20s and early 30s). But I wonder if I will be doing as great in my 40s and 50s. It is great to have men in this forum that have lived live in the 40s and 50s as those are the mature posts I am currently try to read and absorb.

I hope you continue to contribute to this place regularly.

Take care and WELCOME!

 

[paphnuitius]

Thank You

for you kind comments. I will contribute if my thinking can add to the enhancement of another. I just know that I am just a man, and my experiece colors what I think. I am glad that my words touched you.

Best of luck
Paphnuitius