"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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As you all know, there's a lot of flakes and bullsh!tters out there. What are your opinions of putting your foot down and giving a girl (for lack of a better word) an ultimatum?

Example:

"I'm gonna be real... Do you want to hang out, or should I just delete your number?"

I've noticed that more often then not this kind of thing does NOT have a positive outcome, but I also can't stop myself from doing it when I get flaked on or when a girl does't respond. This sh!t pisses me off, and, since I am bored as f*ck 70% of the time these days and have nothing better to do, I cave in to my anger and send these kind of texts.

Thoughts?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Desdinova

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The only time I do things like that is if I'm actually in a LTR with her and I'm on the verge of getting rid of the bytch. The last GF I had flaked for our 6 month anniversary. I had mentioned that I was planning something for us a few times and when the day finally came and I was outside her apartment to pick her up, she went silent. She claimed that she never got any of the messages that we were doing something. My final message to her was "I'm not sure if you're going to get this message or not, but I'm done with you".

As for new chicks who flake, I don't care enough about them to send an angry message.
 
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Desdinova said:
The only time I do things like that is if I'm actually in a LTR with her and I'm on the verge of getting rid of the bytch. The last GF I had flaked for our 6 month anniversary. I had mentioned that I was planning something for us a few times and when the day finally came and I was outside her apartment to pick her up, she went silent. She claimed that she never got any of the messages that we were doing something. My final message to her was "I'm not sure if you're going to get this message or not, but I'm done with you".

As for new chicks who flake, I don't care enough about them to send an angry message.
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What happened after that? What did she say?

I agree. Keep calm and move on.
 
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Korrupt said:
I've noticed that more often then not this kind of thing does NOT have a positive outcome, but I also can't stop myself from doing it when I get flaked on or when a girl does't respond. This sh!t pisses me off, and, since I am bored as f*ck 70% of the time these days and have nothing better to do, I cave in to my anger and send these kind of texts.

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Don't be bored as f*ck and it won't bother you as much. Flakes happen. It's best to plan ways to see her that are convenient for you. Like if you have to go to the mall to buy something, you have her meet you at the bar at the mall, etc. If she flakes you don't care.

Don't send those texts ever. They come off as not having self-control. Don't tell her what you are going to do... just do it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I always go in thinking that they will flake. I had a flake the other day.It was no big deal. It won't help to get angry.....I am feeling quite calm since I think I am finally over my x. It took three months. Three months of crazy....
 
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Asking them that only feeds their validation. You simply disappear without a trace.

Besides, always read a woman's actions not her words.
 
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