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Burlesque Photo Shoot

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I'm in the process of planning perhaps the most exciting photo shoot (and date) of my life.

The most beautiful woman I know will (next week after her out of state trip) pose for a (non-nude) series of photos and videos in a burlesque outfit featuring:

1) Corset
2) Garter belt
3) Stockings
4) Lace gloves
5) Victorian era hat
6) Umbrella
7) Fan
8) Ribbons
9) Tutu skirt
10) Bloomers
11) Moulin rouge skirt

(not all outfits will be worn at the same time - there will be two or three shoots)

This will be done in the house where Gone with the Wind was filmed, an 11,000 square foot Victorian era mansion that survived the Civil War (built 1836). She will wear the outfit out on the town.

I never heard her sound more excited.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make a 19th century photo shoot more authentic? Shoes? Hair styles? Makeup ideas? Men's styles?

I'll post photos. Thanks!

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I have a little bit of experience with dress of that period, it's ok...nothing special in my opinion. Are you going strictly for 19th century American dress? Keep in mind that most of Britain defined that era, just look at dress examples from the women in London at the time; America mimicked a lot of what they did in terms of fashion.

Are you going for authenticity or just 'fun'? If it's authenticity, a lot of dresses you see today are very form fitting around women, and that was definitely not the style for an upper class lady back in the day; at most they might show a little shoulder along with a bare neck. They still had busty dresses...hell even showing cleavage back then was very frowned upon but I also realize that it will probably turn out to be a very plain photoshoot if that's what you're sticking to.

I would suggest if you're trying to make it more sexy and racy with the dresses, try to keep the hats somewhat authentic and see how that works.
 

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I have a little bit of experience with dress of that period, it's ok...nothing special in my opinion. Are you going strictly for 19th century American dress? Keep in mind that most of Britain defined that era, just look at dress examples from the women in London at the time; America mimicked a lot of what they did in terms of fashion.

Are you going for authenticity or just 'fun'? If it's authenticity, a lot of dresses you see today are very form fitting around women, and that was definitely not the style for an upper class lady back in the day; at most they might show a little shoulder along with a bare neck. They still had busty dresses...hell even showing cleavage back then was very frowned upon but I also realize that it will probably turn out to be a very plain photoshoot if that's what you're sticking to.

I would suggest if you're trying to make it more sexy and racy with the dresses, try to keep the hats somewhat authentic and see how that works.
Yes I had to buy her a blouse when I realized the corset was basically undergarments.

I'm sort of OCD so this ended up costing me a small fortune - 24 items (3 complete outfits) at about $30 per item ($720 for a Victorian era wardrobe). Nothing was more than $100. Many are antique. I'm going to have to make this part of her Christmas present and spread it out over several dates as that's about 6 months worth of gifts.

 

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Are these all strippers? These chicks are smoking and you are a talented photographer. Do you shoots end up in extra activity?
 

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Are these all strippers? These chicks are smoking and you are a talented photographer. Do you shoots end up in extra activity?
Back in the spring I posted about becoming a photographer. I've had two models since then. While I met both at strip clubs, I did it by qualifying them. I would walk up to them when they were on stage and ask them a bunch of questions. "Do you have any tattoos? When is your birthday? Do you smoke?" I never got a table dance or went to VIP with either. An odd thing about me in strip clubs is, I hardly ever even look at their bodies for more than a second. It's more about their aura, voice, and look in their eyes. Then I get their numbers and get to know them over several weeks. Both of my models (only a small subset of the strippers I meet qualify) are great writers so they got the jobs (i.e, they don't call me 'u'). We plan the shoots in great detail. They love it because they get professional model experience and a portfolio. Sometimes if it's a period theme (i.e, 1930's or this Burlesque shoot) I get them some outfits. They get a nominal fee (they are paid the smallest amount they will be excited about). The first model (after two shoots) never led to anything except a pity peck. The second model however (now after four shoots), perhaps because she saw my portfolio shots of the first model and took me more seriously, has blossomed into one of the greatest romances of my life. I'm in a new place in life. I'm dating the most beautiful woman I know, but I feel completely unattached.
 

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Back in the spring I posted about becoming a photographer. I've had two models since then. While I met both at strip clubs, I did it by qualifying them. I would walk up to them when they were on stage and ask them a bunch of questions. "Do you have any tattoos? When is your birthday? Do you smoke?" I never got a table dance or went to VIP with either. An odd thing about me in strip clubs is, I hardly ever even look at their bodies for more than a second. It's more about their aura, voice, and look in their eyes. Then I get their numbers and get to know them over several weeks. Both of my models (only a small subset of the strippers I meet qualify) are great writers so they got the jobs (i.e, they don't call me 'u'). We plan the shoots in great detail. They love it because they get professional model experience and a portfolio. Sometimes if it's a period theme (i.e, 1930's or this Burlesque shoot) I get them some outfits. They get a nominal fee (they are paid the smallest amount they will be excited about). The first model (after two shoots) never led to anything except a pity peck. The second model however (now after four shoots), perhaps because she saw my portfolio shots of the first model and took me more seriously, has blossomed into one of the greatest romances of my life. I'm in a new place in life. I'm dating the most beautiful woman I know, but I feel completely unattached.
That's a awesome job specifically for you...
 

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Here is the model in our last shoot.

That's a good shot and she looks damn fine in that photo.

I do some amateur photography also however my shortcoming is that I have difficulty setting up an "artistic" shot. I'm a very technically minded person and I do that well in my day job, however it doesn't always translate well into this area. I like doing it and continuing to try and improve though.
 

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Just practice more! I don't even look through the lens, I just hold the camera (usually down low) and take odd angle shots. This upcoming Victorian Era and Lingerie shoot will be spectacular. I'm going to dress her from head to toe - several times.
 
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