Bumped into old BF..

[illmatic1005]

heres the deal...before my GF and I were going out, she hooked up with and gave head to this guy..he aint no normal guy tho..

hes hot, ill admit..he has a nice brand new mustang, looks like he could be a model, tall, dark, blasts his music and does everything in a 'cool, bad-boy' manner, and looks like he would be an adventure...

I, on the other hand, am short, have some pimples, not bad looking, but not the best, have a really good sense of humor, and no car, and gets along with her family really well(which is rare)..my gf has done the same things with me as this other kid, even a little more actually...shes always telling me she doesnt wanna lose me and loves me..and when the other kid is mentioned she always says she hates him and that hes a player.(she use to think i was a player too..so please dont think im the nice guy she went to after this bad boy)

well..the other day my buddy was driving us somewhere and up pops this kid blasting his music, looking all cool...my gf tells my buddy who was driving..''dont get close to his car, i dont wanna see him"..and she was laughing a bit saying "STOP!" and put her jacket over her face...

after this, she grabbed my hand and said "Only You" and we were both quite for about 5 mins until i brought up something different.

what i want to kno is how to deal with situations like this?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

heres the deal...before my GF and I were going out, she hooked up with and gave head to this guy..

And you know this because?

 

[illmatic1005]

cause this kid and some other kid fought over my GF (before we were going out) and i asked someone why they fought and found out...this was all be4 i was going out with my gf

 

[Gangster Of Love]

She thinks every guy who she likes are "players". When a broad accuses you of being a player, means she's attracted to you.

Stop being insecure. How old are all the parties involved?

 

[MooseGod]

And this is worth wasting your time worrying about because.... ?

If it was before you met her, just respond indifferently and change the subject.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

cause this kid and some other kid fought over my GF (before we were going out) and i asked someone why they fought and found out...this was all be4 i was going out with my gf

And these other guys knew that she was going around polishing knobs?

 

[illmatic1005]

And these other guys knew that she was going around polishing knobs?

lol can u just answer the question..i dont care she called me a player or what she did in the past or anything..i just wanna kno how to deal with those situations k thanks

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

lol can u just answer the question..i dont care she called me a player or what she did in the past or anything..i just wanna kno how to deal with those situations k thanks

Don't ask, don't tell. Happy and dumb works in a lot of instances.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

People always flashin their sh!t are the most insecure looking for validation from others. Don't worry about this guys looks and material. Right now she is with you. If your girl starts acting shady like you think she might be trying to hook up with a guy. Then, you need to worry. Other then that, relax and go with the flow.

 

[AfRoSwiss-Disiac]

heres the deal...before my GF and I were going out, she hooked up with and gave head to this guy..he aint no normal guy tho..

hes hot, ill admit..he has a nice brand new mustang, looks like he could be a model, tall, dark, blasts his music and does everything in a 'cool, bad-boy' manner, and looks like he would be an adventure...

I, on the other hand, am short, have some pimples, not bad looking, but not the best, have a really good sense of humor, and no car, and gets along with her family really well(which is rare)..my gf has done the same things with me as this other kid, even a little more actually...shes always telling me she doesnt wanna lose me and loves me..and when the other kid is mentioned she always says she hates him and that hes a player.(she use to think i was a player too..so please dont think im the nice guy she went to after this bad boy)

well..the other day my buddy was driving us somewhere and up pops this kid blasting his music, looking all cool...my gf tells my buddy who was driving..''dont get close to his car, i dont wanna see him"..and she was laughing a bit saying "STOP!" and put her jacket over her face...

after this, she grabbed my hand and said "Only You" and we were both quite for about 5 mins until i brought up something different.

what i want to kno is how to deal with situations like this?

Juss be cool and be a Don Juan...when she grabs you like that again just smile at her. Show that you are not worried about this other guy

 

[KontrollerX]

Just go with your gut instinct.

Meaning if you feel on a deep level that you can trust her then go ahead and trust her but if you have an ominous feeling about her trustworthiness and find yourself rationalizing any bad behaviour from her next immediately and do not look back.

As for how to handle that other guy...

Just ignore him and don't go the jealous boyfriend route and you should be fine.

If you have to confront him somewhere AMOG him but if he steps over the line with some comment towards you knock him on his ass.

 

[midik]

You have nothing to worry about as it happened with the other guys before she met you.

and I bet that other guy with the mustang is still a AFC with deep hidden insecuritys
as are most guys have even thou they don't show it.

remember you are different to these other guys in the way you are beyond
such things

If you are seeing this girl and she keeps mention other guys or seeing others
you will have to deal with her bad behavior.
Give her the choice its you or these other guys


When most guys encounter bad behavior, they usually
start REWARDING her. They touch her, they stroke her ego, they
give her tons of affection, but they do this at the wrong TIME.
They give her affection because THEY want some affection. But
giving her affection, even to try and calm her down, is wrong.
Your girlfriend treats you the way you train her to treat you,
plain and simple

Now, as far as punishing bad behavior goes, obviously we
can't go back to the old ways and use FORCE like we used to.
Using force only works in the short term, and then it creates
a hell on earth for the couple. We have to use
other means, and BEFORE we ever even THINK about
confronting and punishing our girlfriends, we absolutely
MUST be standing in our Compassion. Without compassion, we
cannot have a conscious, polarized relationship

 

[spartan915]

How is this a bad thing? Who cares about what she did with other guys before she met you, and she obviously seemed much more interested in you than in this other kid. Just look her in the eyes, smile, maybe kiss her and change the subject. Don't get too sappy, let her know you appreciate her, and continue like nothing happened and you don't give a fvck about this guy.