"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bumble lost a third of its Texas workforce after state passed restrictive ‘Heartbeat Act’ abortion bill

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So, Texas went ahead and passed the Heartbeat Act, and what happens? A third of Bumble's crew in Texas swiped left on the state—hard. Yep, a chunk of its team disconnected from Texas faster than a bad date ghosting you after dinner.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bumble has roots in the state of Texas.

It is not a coincidence that the feminist-oriented dating app is based in Austin, Texas. Austin, Texas is a city known for feminist, careerist, and SJW type women.

Bumble founder Whitney Wolfe Herd attended and graduated from Southern Methodist University in the Dallas area. She was an early Tinder employee before parting ways with the organization to start Bumble. Around that time is when she moved to Austin.

Bumble's corporate culture has been progressive and feminist. It's not surprising that the company would attract employees would who share those values and strongly oppose Texas Senate Bill 8 (the Heartbeat Act).

Austinites tend to have ideological patterns that are commonly found in the Northeast, Chicago, and large West Coast cities. Those ideologies are not indicative of Texans as a whole.

The Heartbeat Act has not drastically changed the sexual marketplace in Texas. Plenty of women in Texas use a birth control method by their own choice. Many Texas women have sex with men who use condoms, which supplements their own birth control choices.

It is likely that the majority of the Bumble employees who objected to the Heartbeat Act were women using birth control who were not likely to conceive an unwanted child and not need abortion services themselves. These are mainly privileged women. Many of those women remained with the company while they relocated to another place. Some of those women have likely been laid off in recent times as Bumble has had some struggles.

Additionally, women in Texas who want abortions travel to New Mexico. For residents in areas like El Paso, Amarillo, and Lubbock, this is not inconvenient as those areas are near the Texas-New Mexico border.
 

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Some of those women have likely been laid off in recent times as Bumble has had some struggles.
I wanted to provide more information about this quote. It was reported last week that Bumble laid off 350 employees, equating to 37% of its workforce. Healthy companies do not lay off 37% of a workforce.


 

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Bumble stock was crashing long before this bill. Women have destroyed dating and men are leaving apps in droves. That’s what’s going on pretty much.
 

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Interesting business model. If the service works as intended. The company looses two customers.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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@Pierce.Manhammer this is a shady news story. Bumble laid off 30% of their work force. They have big financial problems. I don't think it had anything to do with Bumble losing staff like the author insinuated.

The Heartbeat Act SB8 passed in 2021. Bumble announced layoffs in February 2024.

 

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I’m not sure that it is fake news or even corporate fake news. It is self-aggrandizing. I could totally see a bunch of chicks that are living the remote lifestyle relocating because of the Roe v. Wade thing that again I do live Californistan, were the absurd reigns in real life.
 

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It is likely that the majority of the Bumble employees who objected to the Heartbeat Act were women using birth control who were not likely to conceive an unwanted child and not need abortion services themselves. These are mainly privileged women.
This was virtue signaling.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bumble stock was crashing long before this bill. Women have destroyed dating and men are leaving apps in droves. That’s what’s going on pretty much.
Can't blame men for leaving a rigged game against them, I knew dating apps sucked but when I watched a guy on youtube who was decent looking with a 6 pack (no flamingo) talk about his struggles I knew it was wrap
 
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