I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
carrot said:for those who stuck in reality ,how to believe and into bullshiitting
That Should be the core of wealth building, but many make it the sleazy spineless way too. Stock trading, these days, is basically stealing from others as "investing" is no longer a viable play due the mass corruption at the top here in America, see Congress exempt from insider trading prosecution.Julius_Seizeher said:No, bvll****ting is not a virtue of success.
But what you are hitting on is what I call "the money maker vs. money appropriator dichotomy". Like all dichotomies, this one is also false.
At the base of the issue is the question, "How does one make money?" Wealth, like every other human value, must be produced. Wealth does not exist as a static, metaphysical "pie" for which we must fight for slices or crumbs (or "distribution"). Wealth is an infinite absolute, which means that you can acquire as much wealth as you are able to produce.
Wealth is produced by taking the metaphysical building blocks of nature and converting them into something useful to mankind, or by rendering an intellectual service that is useful. The prime fundamental, the X factor in creating wealth, is your ability to think. Wealth is a product of man's mind, not his muscles (or his ability to cheat).
A money maker is a man with an intransigent devotion to a rational purpose, who pursues it with the passion of a fighter, the patience of a saint, and the endurance of a martyr. The money maker seeks to conquer nature by harnessing it towards greater productive purposes. He is flexible in regards to circumstances, but inflexible in regards to people. The money maker holds his own work as the highest purpose and value of his life, and he holds himself responsible for creating whatever value he is going to offer to others to trade in transactions of uncoerced, mutual benefit. He is the man who lives in reality, who does not try to evade it in any measure, and who knows that in any attempt to cheat others he can only defraud himself. He lives by the saying, "You cannot cheat an honest man."
The money appropriator, the perennial parasite, is the man who produces nothing and "acquires" money by filching it from the pocket of the man who created it. He seeks to conquer other men by means of social maneuvering and political pull; his knowledge (and his character) is pathetically shallow and the only way he knows how to make money is to take it from someone else. With every temporary "success" he achieves, his panic is augmented by the knowledge he evades--that he does not deserve the money he has, and every time he "wins" he feels one step closer to the destruction he knows himself to deserve.
Crime, and social maneuvering, do not pay.
If you see others who seem to advance by means of "bvll****ting" others, whether it is a used car salesman or the President of the United States, check your premises. It is not any real or valid success or achievement that he has made, but just one more temporary stay of execution, one more evasion of reality for which reality will eventually punish him, one more brick in his wall of evasions that will come crashing down on his head.