Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bit too much, drop it to 1lb per week max. Yes work your abs during bulking, so they grow nice and thick. Then when you cut you'll have decent abs to reveal. No point working them loads when you're cutting because they won't be growing much. No peanut butter sandwiches are not good, thats fat and carbs. Your meals should be based around protein first, then carbs and/or fats where necessary.mpfit said:Hey ive been following diesels guide and am finding good results. Averaging about 2lbs a week for a first few weeks. I was just wondering if I should still be working on my abs during bulking?
Also peanut butter sandwichs are good right? I eat about 3 a day lol
Yes but it's still fat and carbs and not based around protein first because there is little protein and plenty of fat and carbs.Rampage1 said:there is protein in peanut butter dufass
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Calories need to be from the right stuff mate, no point bulking up on too many fat and carbs. You need more protein, 5 meals a day plus post workout shake is what's needed. Try and get 40g + of protein in each meal, even more PWO and dinner. Use most of your carbs at breakfast and either side of training, with fats in sedentary periods. It's going to be a bit uncomfortable eating lots of protein, but that's whats needed.mpfit said:hey thanks for the quick replies. Im only 6'0 170lbs so I figured the PB was good for me.. I need the calories. I need to get about 3700 or so and the peanut butter is a big help.
I get lots of protein. I drink 2 whey shakes a day and usually a chicken breast, legs, etc for dinner and such.
Yes there's some merit to that, depends how cleanly you want to bulk and how easily the fat will come off at the end of a bulk. Some BBers bulk up loads off season, are fat, then get ripped for comp and it works well. But for recreational trainers it's not wise to get fat throughout the year.LostAndConfused said:From what I've heard, once you get your protein requirement in, it doesn't matter what else you eat.
Some article I read it mentioned a body builder who eats 10 hamburgers a day from McDonalds during his bulking phase