"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bulking up with fast metabolism?

ChronicDream

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After reading a lot on the topic I've been trying to bulk up. I'm 17 bout 5'9-5'10 and weigh almost 120lbs. I have always been very skinny but I haven't gained a single pound in almost 2 years. 6 weeks ago I started working out with a bowflex using some bulking up methods, along with eating as much as I possibly can but it seems like my metabolism is my problem. In 6 weeks of following a good workout schedule I've seen absolutely NO results other than getting a little stronger. Is there any way to slow down my metabolism?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Warboss Alex

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I broke a bowflex once.

Get a gym membership, or buy some weights.. especially for a skinny guy you need these. then list EXACTLY what you eat every day, count the calories, and see how much you're not eating.
 

ChronicDream

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About how many calories should I shoot for each day? and are bowflexes not good enough?
 

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Bowflexes..I've never really been to excited for those.

Can you do squats? Deadlifts? An actual bench press? Can you Use dumbells, barbells? It's all just cable exercises.

Those guys on the bowflex commercials, i'll put my entire life savings on the fact that they probably don't use it other than for the commercial.
 

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ChronicDream said:
After reading a lot on the topic I've been trying to bulk up. I'm 17 bout 5'9-5'10 and weigh almost 120lbs. I have always been very skinny but I haven't gained a single pound in almost 2 years. 6 weeks ago I started working out with a bowflex using some bulking up methods, along with eating as much as I possibly can but it seems like my metabolism is my problem. In 6 weeks of following a good workout schedule I've seen absolutely NO results other than getting a little stronger. Is there any way to slow down my metabolism?
Here's what is usually the case with skinny guys. They all usually truly believe in their heart's that they eat "a lot." The problem is:

"A lot" is different from person to person. What may seem like a lot to you, is most likely a snack to me. If you're not gaining any weight at your current caloric intake. Why not eat more?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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First thing to keep in mind from a guy who was and is like you, most of the gains you can or can not make are determined by genetics. simply put, some guys will put on much more mass with the same workouts, diet, and sleep you do. Dont get too discouraged.

Second thing; the key is to stick with it. Do not waiver, do not take a break becasue the results are slow, because they will be. It took me 5 years to get from 130 to 180 lbs. I've done sports, along with doing a real routine. Everyone can imagine an instance where their friends talk about going to the gym, or the get as far so that they actually have a workout. But think back to how many of those friends stop. For myself, I can think of 2-3 friends who have stuck with it; the rest just stopped for whatever excuse they could find.

In 6 weeks of following a good workout schedule I've seen absolutely NO results

again, don't expect quick results. 6 weeks is a short period of time. Heck, one year is a short period of time, and dont expect to be filling out those T shirts just yet.
 

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Aim for 20 calories per lb. bodyweight, which, being that you're 120 lbs., you want to consume 2,400 calories...this doesn't have to be exact...but if you can go over that amount, the more the better.

Of those 2400 cals., consume 1-2 grams protein per lb. bodyweight and 2-3 grams carbs per lb. bodyweight. Consume 10-20% of your calories from good fats such as flax oil, almonds, etc., and drink a gallon of water per day.

I personally would ditch the bowflex and join a local gym. You need to focus on performing compound exercises such as squats, deads, and bench. A single compound exercise works several muscle groups, so you're getting the most bang for you buck.

The Bowflex may work, but I gained my muscle using dumbells and barbells. The Bowflex just seems too machine-like for me.
good advice there from the lil guy although you may need even more food than that.
 

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I started actually doing cardio and downing a ton of green tea. I've dropped from 184 to 179 now while eating MORE than i used to... no loss of strength.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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