"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just got done my last workout of the week. Feel good after completing it. Only thing that bothers me is that my diet this week wasn't as stable as it should've been. But I think I have that done now. So I should be good.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Here's my workouts for this past week:

Legs
Squat, Machine x 10 x 10 x 8 x 8 x 6 x 6
Leg Extension, Machine x 8 x 6 x 6 x 4
Hamstring Curl, Machine (Lying) x 8 x 6 x 6 x 4
Leg Press x 8 x 6 x 6 x 6 x 4 x 4
Seated Callf Raise x 100 x 100 x 100 x 100

Back/Biceps
Arnold Press x 10 x 10 x 8 x 8 x 6 x 6 x 4 x 4
Seated Dumbbell Press x 8 x 6 x 6 x 6 x 4 x 4
Cable Rope Rear-Delt Row x 8 x 6 x 6 x 6 x4 x 4
Ab Crunch Machine x 20 x 20 x 20
Hanging Side Knee Raise Body x 10 Body x 10 Body x 10
Cable Shrugs x 20 x 20 x 20
Lying Weighted Crunch 10 x 10 10 x 10 10 x 10
Twist Machine 100 x 10 100 x 10

Back/Biceps
Wide-Grip Pulldown x 10 x 10 x 8 x 8 x 6 x 6
Seated Cable Row x 8 x 6 x 6 x 6 x 4 x 4
Underhand-Grip Pulldown x 8 x 6 x 6 x 6 x 4 x 4
Preacher Curl x 8 x 6 x 6 x 4
Hammer Curls, Rope x 10 x 8 x 6 x 4
Close-Grip Pulldown x 8 x 6 x 6 x 6 x 4 x 4
Back Extension 10 x 15 10 x 15 10 x 15 10 x 15

Chest/Triceps
Dumbbell Bench Press x 10 x 10 x 8 x 8 x 6 x 6
Incline Dumbbell Flyes x 8 x 6 x 6 x 6 x 4 x 4
Hammer Grip Incline DB Bench Press x 8 x 6 x 6 x 6 x 4 x 4
Lying Dumbbell Tricep Extension x 8 x 6 x 6 x 4
Pull-Down, Rope x 8 x 6 x 6 x 4
Incline Bench Press x 8 x 6 x 6 x 6 x 4 x 4
Calf Press on Machine Press x 8 x 6 x 6 x 6 x 4 x 4

Apologize for not having the weight numbers done, can't find the paper with them, but at least got clue of how many reps and sets I'm doing for an exercise.
 

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oh my god
 

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BluEyes said:
oh my god

We got it under control now no more worries :)
 

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Sorry haven't been updating this. Had a friend past away a week ago, so that's been more focus. But I'm back now, so I'll update this soon.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Started a fitday.com account and have my diet under control. Much thanks to EFFORT for helping me with that.
 

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Trying to steadily keep this diet. Swear it's not as easy as it seems. Dog ends up getting sick and I spend a hours in the vet's over it. That push me back from my goal of eating a meal every 3 hours. Just have to plan better though some things are unavoidable.
 

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Went to the gym today. Did abs/shoulder. It was an okay workout. Feel like I didn't get as much out of it as I wanted.
 

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Don't stress over missing one meal. If you lead a semi-normal life and have other commitments it will happen from time to time. Just makesure it isn't happening frequently. If you find you have a particular day or days where your struggling to fit in all 6 then condense it into 5 if you feel the need. For most people I know however, it comes down to perseverence.

Quagmire
 

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I'm finding that perserverence may be the most important in it all. Keeping with the lifting and eating consistantly. Not as easy as I first thougt.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The lifting gets easier is follow, the eating, unless you devise a set strategy, does not. :)
 

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BluEyes said:
The lifting gets easier is follow, the eating, unless you devise a set strategy, does not. :)
You're right. Lifting is the easy part if anything!
 

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Been doing full body workouts twice a week for the past week. I'm going to continue is this for the next two weeks also. Soon I'll post the workout I'll be following for about 5 weeks after those two weeks.
 

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mrRuckus said:
Legs and back in consecutive workouts is a lot on the lower back. Especially squats and deadlifts like it should be.

i don't even know if that testosterone nonsense is true but it's being way too anal.
mrRuckus your right. Thought about it. On leg days i'm doing deadlift and squats, then on back days i'm doing good mornings. To have them in consecutive days would be to much on the lower back. That's why i'm spreading the days in between the two workouts. Thanks! :up:
 

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Did a full body workout today. Hit the back, biceps, triceps, and chest. Feel good after doing it. Actually feel a little bit more self-confident. I'm really enjoying lifting.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just looked at the pictures of myself in this post. Just to remind me why I'm doing this. Deff got to keep going. Also, found this article about reasons.
I'll post it. They are shallow reasons but come on they are the reasons most of us are doing it.
 

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TOP TEN SHALLOW REASONS TO WORKOUT
By: Ryan DeLuca
Stay motivated by printing your own list and reading it daily...
Let's face it. Most of us have the best intentions when we start a new workout program. "This is the time that I will actually stick to bodybuilding and not quit!" or "Last time I was forced to quit because I was too busy to lift... but this time I am serious!"
Something went wrong and we ended up sitting on our lazy butts for six months straight as our muscles went into hiding and our waists expanded.
Everybody has an excuse about why they haven't yet achieved all their bodybuilding goals. Don't feel too bad though - how many really buff and ripped people do you see on an average day while walking around the city? Maybe one or two if any!
At least 95% of people are not too good to look at naked. Sticking to a workout or diet plan is hard! Should that be depressing to you? No! It means that once you succeed you will be one of the very few hard bodies around for everybody to be jealous of
How do you become one of these motivated and dedicated people? It is 90% psychological. Most of the time when you skip a workout or quit your program it is because you were downright lazy.
You need to figure out what works for you when it comes to staying motivated for longer than a month or two. In this article, I will teach you what works for me... and most of the people I know.
Emotions motivate us to want to do things. We feel the need to do certain things or accomplish certain goals. The following list of reasons to stay motivated are emotional triggers that can help you remember why you wanted to do this in the first place.
Most people forget these things 30 minutes before they are supposed to be at the gym. All they can think about is the fact that they are tired and had a long, stressful day.

Top 10 Reasons To Never Quit!

Yeah, yeah... I know. Bodybuilding is about the healthy lifestyle. It's great that because of bodybuilding you will live longer, feel healthier, have more energy, prevent diseases, decrease stress, get sick less often and all that other stuff.
But let's be truthful for a second. Did you start bodybuilding so that you could prevent some future disease that you might get someday in the distant future?
 

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Starting next week here is the workout I'm doing for next 5 weeks:

LEGS
Squat, Machine x 10 x 8 x 6 x 4
Arnold Press x 10 x 8 x 6 x 4
Cable Rope Rear-Delt Row x 10 x 8 x 6 x 4
Upright Rows x 10 x 8 x 6 x 4
Calf Press on Leg Press x 10 x 10 x 10 x 10
Thigh Abductor x 12 x 12 FAILURE
Thigh Adductor x 12 x 12 FAILURE
Lying Hamstring Curl x 12 x 12 FAILURE
Deadlift x 10 x 8 x 6 x 4

ABS
Decline Twist Crunch 10 x 10 10 x 10 10 x 10
Planks Body x 30 sec. Body x 30 sec. Body x 30 sec.
Side Plank Left x 30 sec. Right x 30 sec.
Lying Weighted Crunch 40 x 10 40 x 10 40 x 10
Wrist Curl x 12 x 12 FAILURE
Wrist Squeezes FAILURE
Broomstick Twist Stick x 3 min.
Decline Crunch FAILURE

BACK, BICEPS
Wide-Grip Pulldown x 10 x 8 x 6 x 4
Close-Grip Pulldown x 10 x 8 x 6 x 4
Pullups FAILURE
Barbell Rows x 10 x 8 x 6 x 4
Reverse EZ Bar Curl x 12 x 12 FAILURE
EZ Bar Curl x 12 x 12 FAILURE
Stiff Legged Deadlift x 10 x 8 x 6 x 4

CHEST/TRICEPS
Incline Barbell Press x 10 x 8 x 6 x 4
Dumbbell Bench Press x 10 x 8 x 6 x 4
Straight-Arm Dumbbell Pullover 25 x 20
Incline Dumbbell Flyes x 12 x 12 FAILURE
Dumbbell Tricep Extension x 12 x 12 FAILURE
Pull-Down, Rope x 12 x 12 FAILURE
Calf Raise x 100 x 100 x 100 x 100
Ab Crunch Machine x 10 x 10 x 10 x 10 x 10
Dips FAILURE
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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