"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Building up to the date after getting the number.?

SoSuaveDude

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let's say you get a girls number and you really don't know too much about her, or maybe you do, either way you want to get together and go out on a date. What do you do building up to the date? Do you call her a couple days later and try to find her interest? How many weeks do you let pass after getting the number before meeting up with her?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Texting seems to be the way more girls these days are into communicating. They pick up their phones less and less.

Do not wait weeks to contact her. A few days at most.

Do not try to establish comfort or rapport via text. Use it to set up a meet.

When setting up a meet, tell her what you are doing and suggest she should join. Don't ask her out on a formal date for the first meet up.

"Heading out to XYZ for happy hour. Great drinks here. You should come join."
"Hanging out a [coffee shop] for a few. Come hang for a while."
"Going to XYZ for lunch. Great food, you'd like it."

And so on.

NOTHING LIKE THIS: "What you doing?" "How's your day?" Etc.

If she doesn't respond, move on.

If she does respond and says she can't, then see if she suggests another time. It still might work out.

If she doesn't suggest another time/place, her interest level is low. Game other chicks until she contacts you.
 
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