"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This might seem unrelated, but it's an example of building rapport with a PERSON and maybe could shed some light on if it would be possible for me to build rapport with a female.

I was trying to pay to have some drywall work done in a house flip. Got many responses to an ad. One guy came to see the house. Found out not only can he do good drywall work for a reasonable price, but he can do many other types of work for a reasonable price. Now, I had been doing the work myself both to save money and because it can be hard to find someone reliable, knowledgeable, and reasonably priced.

This guy is not rich. He lives in a trailer. I am hopefully helping him out by giving him consistent work. He is helping me by saving me from having to spend my time doing the work and allowing me to flip many more houses per year.

There is clear motivation for both of us, as long as he wants to continue working.

This isn't rocket science.

Yet I have no luck building rapport with females. There isn't a clear motivation or definite idea of what we would want from each other, if anything. Unless, of course, that is just trading money for sex.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So now you see that I am capable of socializing, building trust, rapport, etc....

So how should this go with a female? Generally, what does she give, and what do I give? What's the agreement or the trade?

Business relationships make sense to me. I'm not super experienced at them, but they should be built on trust, honesty, good product, fair price, etc.

How is this supposed to work with relationships with women?
 
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Can no one really answer this question? What are the two sides supposed to offer?

What do I want from them? Sex, I suppose. Sometimes, not all the time.

And what am I supposed to offer in return? What do YOU offer?

Looks, money, status?
Personality?
Status + Desire? (Mark Manson)
A bionic d1ck?
Free room in my mansion? Help with bills?

If I could just figure out what I should be offering in return... Maybe I could have this down to a science. I usually learn things pretty quickly...
 
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