"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hi.

I just met this chick, talked to her for 5 minutes, dance one song with her and got her number.

Now, I texted her, we texted back and forth a bit and I suggested to meet but she seemed kind of busy but receptive at the same time. I guess it is because she barely knows anything about me besides my name and age.

So, do I try to build some rapport via text before asking her out again?
Lets say I text her one or two more times, we talked a bit more... and then suggest to meet? or how do I do it?


Thanks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So, do I try to build some rapport via text before asking her out again?

NO^

The phone isnt useful for doing anything besides a few back and forth exchanges and setting up meet ups.

I guess it is because she barely knows anything about me besides my name and age.

Or its because she really just wasnt that attracted to you. The "there wasnt enough time for her to get to know me" bit is bullsh1t. I just did a post about having sex with a girl who I met for 5 mins at the bar....and guess what? I waited a few days after and hit her up. SHE REMEMBERS ME AND WAS RECEPTIVE. Not because I built rapport on the phone with her before asking her out....but because she found me attractive.

Only way your going to know if shes into you, is to send one funny text about something you guys talked about then ask "What nights are you free this week?". Pick one that she gives you and go out. Period.
 

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well Ive also met one girl to whom I just spoke for 5 minutes and some days later she agreed to go on a date with me, but I think many girls just do not go out with a guy they just met for 5 minutes, dont you think?
she may be thinking: oh this guy looks cool but...I just dont know him at all, I dont wanna feel nervous or uncomfortable on a date with a guy I just met.
Of course if I was Brad Pitt she may just accept but hey, thats a fantasy.

Also, you suggest to not build rapport via text, ok I understand your point, but Ive also heard of some friends of mine that started texting their girlfriends, and after two weeks or so of texing and stuff, they decided to go on a date, so I guess it just works sometimes. Not texting to build rapport is just another 'rule' that is not always true.

One guy here told me once that I should not follow these 'seduction rules' 100% of the time, you have to adapt, because if you do not do so you're just like a robot and this makes you fail sometimes.

So I dont know ..hehehe...
I think she finds me handsome, but since she lives in a village 1h away from me, she's just not SO interested right now.
I think Im just gonna wait until wednesday or thursday and sent her a text as you suggested, give her small chitchat and see if she wants to meet. However, in previous situations where this same pattern happened (ie she looking busy, and then seing after some days if she was available), almost all of them turned down my offer again.
 

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but I think many girls just do not go out with a guy they just met for 5 minutes, dont you think?

Attraction > Time elapsed since meeting you

Also, you suggest to not build rapport via text, ok I understand your point, but Ive also heard of some friends of mine that started texting their girlfriends, and after two weeks or so of texing and stuff, they decided to go on a date, so I guess it just works sometimes.

So what? Sounds like your friends' arent the kind of guy I would want to model myself after. Texting for 2 weeks = easy path to friendzone. PERIOD. Sure even a blind squirrel finds an acorn every once in awhile, but I bet the frame of those relationships was the guy caring more about it than the woman.
 

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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=207181

dont try to build rapport via text. ask her out and have fun with her IN PERSON.

Also, you suggest to not build rapport via text, ok I understand your point, but Ive also heard of some friends of mine that started texting their girlfriends, and after two weeks or so of texing and stuff, they decided to go on a date, so I guess it just works sometimes.
**** waiting around and texting - your friends clearly are young and have no clue. They sit around an wait for the perfect moment. All the while shiitting themselves that they may be rejected. Thats where their need to text comes from. Fear and desperation.

Be a man and ask the fvcking chick out.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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