She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
to me that's the only way to use a credit card...the amount of interest charged (even with a low APR) makes carrying a balance even one month a rip off.Skilla_Staz said:Personally, I'm getting ONE credit card. Only one. If all goes well, I'll only be using it to charge stuff that I've already got the money for. That way, when the bill comes. Bam. Paid off well before the due date.
Absolutely. BUT always wait until the bill comes, then pay (you should still have several weeks at that point). why? b/c your credit report (and you're entitled to free ones now no matter where you live and should pull it occasionally just to have a look) is full of whatever your lenders report. and generally they report once a month, and you have no control over what day they take that snapshot, so you want the full balance to sit there for a few days, to increase the odds that they're showing your credit use.Best way to get improved credit. Pay things off BEFORE they're due, IN FULL.
also a good point. and you can never forget to pay a random one off if you only use one... i've consolidated to one myself.The more CC's you have, the more temptation there is to use them all. Plus, if you've got 6 of them, whos to say you'll notice is somebody such as myself swipes one?
shouldn't be too hard if you make at least $40k and channel most of your expenditures though the one card. i pay nearly all my bills (phone, cable, etc) through my m.c. and a few years ago I even paid rent with a credit card. never make a late payment, and they should be bumping your credit line regularly. if you're not worried about them making a credit inquiry (you don't plan to borrow for anything else in the near future), you could even ask for a raised credit line right now, and if you've been a regular customer a while they're pretty pliant.Oxide said:Seems like some of you should learn how your score is calculated.
Im trying to get 25k on ONE card .. something from the STR8UP's lectures is telling me this is a good idea.
True, it's not used in determining your score but it is used by lenders (at least when securing a mortgage) to assure that you have funds available to make the initial payments on a mortgage.Bonhomme said:... But the scoring model itself is "dumb": it has no component to account for one's assets or their liquidity....
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Sounds like a personal thing. I have a bunch of credit cards with zero balances that never see the light of day.Skilla_Staz said:...The more CC's you have, the more temptation there is to use them all.
This is true. I only carry one credit card (for emergencies and large purchases) and one debit card for daily use. The rest of my cards are locked up.Skilla_Staz said:Plus, if you've got 6 of them, whos to say you'll notice is somebody such as myself swipes one?
Oxide said:More assets - worse score.
I don't think it's necessarily because of the amount of assets they have. I'd hate to think that Bill Gates couldn't get a secured Capital One card.Oxide said:You have more to loose.
Millionares I know are in the 600;s
Dangling modifier -- my bad. I was referring to the liquidity of the assets. Obviously the more easily and quickly one can get money for them, the more easily they could be utilized to pay off debt. Therefore, one who has more liquid assets is less likely to default on a loan, all other things being equal.I haven't considered liquidity as being a determiner in credit worthiness. How do you feel that it would be advantageous?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Francisco d'Anconia said:Sounds like a personal thing. I have a bunch of credit cards with zero balances that never see the light of day.
Don't let youth ever hold you back from understanding how money works. Don't let a length of bad experiences be your teacher. Get out there and learn how to make the system work for you.Skilla_Staz said:...You're also a day or two older than most people I associate with, and presumably a little more wise to the financial workings of America.
How would you recommend learning how money works?Francisco d'Anconia said:Don't let youth ever hold you back from understanding how money works. Don't let a length of bad experiences be your teacher. Get out there and learn how to make the system work for you.
Believe it or not, a decent economics course is a very good place to start. Add to that a myriad of financial/wealth management books including books by The Motley Fool's, Robert Kiyosaki's "Rich Dad," "The Undercover Economist" (sorry, I can't remember the author's name) and the ever popular "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. Not all of these books will tell you the steps to make a fortune, they will however teach you the mentality of people who understand money which is entirely different than what 90% of America realizes. In my opinion that is more important than knowing specific steps.Calypzo said:How would you recommend learning how money works?
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
That's the funny part.Francisco d'Anconia said:Believe it or not, a decent economics course is a very good place to start. Add to that a myriad of financial/wealth management books including books by The Motley Fool's, Robert Kiyosaki's "Rich Dad," "The Undercover Economist" (sorry, I can't remember the author's name) and the ever popular "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. Not all of these books will tell you the steps to make a fortune, they will however teach you the mentality of people who understand money which is entirely different than what 90% of America realizes. In my opinion that is more important than knowing specific steps.
Why should they? Schools are meant to ensure gradulates leave with a BASIC level of knowledge. You want more knowledge, you have to pay for it at a higher institution, you have to ask the right people the right questions, and/or you have to experience it yourself.Calypzo said:Unfortunately they do not teach these type of things in high schools.
Calypzo said:That's the funny part.
I know a couple of "rich" people, and they will blow it off on cars and boats.
So far, my only financial wisdom is to put money in a savings account. I don't know anything about stocks, money marketing, etc.
Unfortunately they do not teach these type of things in high schools.
Which reminds me of another really good book, "What they Don't Teach You at Harvard Business School."Docs said:Why should they? Schools are meant to ensure gradulates leave with a BASIC level of knowledge. You want more knowledge, you have to pay for it at a higher institution, you have to ask the right people the right questions, and/or you have to experience it yourself.
If the majority knew how to become a millionaire in a year, we'd have some serious problems in this world.
How do you define "rich"? Just because people have boats, a big house, and a expensive car means nothing in and of itself. The real difference is if they have positive cashflow to support the cost of these things or if they're sinking themselves in debt just to look rich.Calypzo said:That's the funny part.
I know a couple of "rich" people, and they will blow it off on cars and boats.
LEARN. LEARN WHILE YOU ARE YOUNG.So far, my only financial wisdom is to put money in a savings account. I don't know anything about stocks, money marketing, etc.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.