"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Building Confidence for Approaching Groups

Jester090

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As someone with only a week of sarging experience under my belt, I'm wondering how one gathers the confidence to approach groups of 2 or more girls [no guys]. I'm 18 and I usually go solo to approach girls at the beach, but my main problem is chicks are ALWAYS with their friends, family, or boyfriends, leaving a VERY small quantity of singles that I can actually approach! And the ones who are by themselves are usually not attractive. Seriously, I average about 1 approach per day, and usually the girls I approach are with one or two girlfriends, but the ocean waves periodically split up their group and that's when I go in.

Here's what always happens: I start talking to one of the girls in the 3 set (when she's by herself), and then her friends notice she's talking to me, get jealous that she was the one approached, and pull her away from me before I even get a chance to chat for one minute. Then they all leave. It pisses me off so bad... :cuss:

So I wanna know what you guys think I should do in my situation...now don't get me wrong... there are TONS of hot girls on the beach, but the problem is that 90% of the time they come in groups. And quite simply, I don't have the confidence to approach a 2-set of college girls tanning on the sand, reading, or sleeping.

Is there a better place where I can find singles, or what?? And please don't suggest malls--I've tried malls and they are HORRIBLE for finding single girls.

Any advice would be great...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Loyalty

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the way i look at is that we are all people on earth and in a relatively short period of time none of us will be here. so approaching a group of girls that you think are fuccable is such a small little task. The absolute WORST scenerio that you can have is them telling you to fucc off.

then when i put that little thought in my head..i immediately transition into the thought patterns of my AFC brethern and how they don't pick their girls but actually marry the chicks or date the chicks they just happen to cross paths with.

Dog..I want to pick the chick that I roll with. Very rarely will some bad ass ride or die bytch just cross your path out of happenstance. You need to go hunting for that chick like you are on some Indiana Jones type sh1t.

So I'm crusin in my whip on a daily basis on a hunt for chicks that can play on my roster.

Requirements.

1. Must like 2 Pac
2. Good Teeth, Face, and body
3. No Kids
4. Fondness for Animals
5. Pu$$y must be semi-tight
6. Enjoys 8 bit nintendo
 

realsmoothie

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Jester090 said:
As someone with only a week of sarging experience under my belt, I'm wondering how one gathers the confidence to approach groups of 2 or more girls [no guys]. I'm 18 and I usually go solo to approach girls at the beach, but my main problem is chicks are ALWAYS with their friends, family, or boyfriends, leaving a VERY small quantity of singles that I can actually approach! And the ones who are by themselves are usually not attractive. Seriously, I average about 1 approach per day, and usually the girls I approach are with one or two girlfriends, but the ocean waves periodically split up their group and that's when I go in.

Here's what always happens: I start talking to one of the girls in the 3 set (when she's by herself), and then her friends notice she's talking to me, get jealous that she was the one approached, and pull her away from me before I even get a chance to chat for one minute. Then they all leave. It pisses me off so bad... :cuss:

So I wanna know what you guys think I should do in my situation...now don't get me wrong... there are TONS of hot girls on the beach, but the problem is that 90% of the time they come in groups. And quite simply, I don't have the confidence to approach a 2-set of college girls tanning on the sand, reading, or sleeping.

Is there a better place where I can find singles, or what?? And please don't suggest malls--I've tried malls and they are HORRIBLE for finding single girls.

Any advice would be great...
Someone else will say this better... but if you're getting "jealousy" problems with the other girls stopping you from talking to your target... then talk to someone OTHER than your target first. Preferrably the ugliest one.
 

rocky_mtn

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The one chick in a group is a tough pickup. Some hints I can offer are

- look for the chick starring around checking things out within the group. Most of them will be huddled together, but if you see one not into in the chich circle then work your way in. Look for women who are on the edge of "the pack", they are looking for someone to approach, the one who is talking non-stop in a huddle isn't one that wants to meet someone.

- after the initial into and banter, get isolated, dancing works best, going to the patio or outside to see the stars might work, going to get drinks might work (but buying her a drink is generally a bad idea)

- don't isolate her from her friends too much, if they butt in or she wants to go hang with them then go back and hang out with your friends or move on. I need to work on this, but I have found that her friends usually come first, and if she's into you she will fend her friends off, but if you try to do that, it's a losing battle

The best way is to make good with the entire group, (assuming a small group of 3 or 4) , introduce yourself to everyone, talk to everyone. Asking people how they know each other gets you some good info and it gets them talking and feeling comfortable.

Sarge on. :woo:
 

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rocky_mtn said:
The best way is to make good with the entire group, (assuming a small group of 3 or 4) , introduce yourself to everyone, talk to everyone. Asking people how they know each other gets you some good info and it gets them talking and feeling comfortable.
While this is good advice, I can't handle groups of 3+ yet. I haven't even mastered single sets yet, so there's no way I could see myself doing groups already.

As for the guy who recommended going for the uglier one first, I've tried this, and it seems no matter which girl I approach, she immediately gets called away by her friends as if she's in danger or something.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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