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Building Confidence for Approaching Groups

Jester090

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As someone with only a week of sarging experience under my belt, I'm wondering how one gathers the confidence to approach groups of 2 or more girls [no guys]. I'm 18 and I usually go solo to approach girls at the beach, but my main problem is chicks are ALWAYS with their friends, family, or boyfriends, leaving a VERY small quantity of singles that I can actually approach! And the ones who are by themselves are usually not attractive. Seriously, I average about 1 approach per day, and usually the girls I approach are with one or two girlfriends, but the ocean waves periodically split up their group and that's when I go in.

Here's what always happens: I start talking to one of the girls in the 3 set (when she's by herself), and then her friends notice she's talking to me, get jealous that she was the one approached, and pull her away from me before I even get a chance to chat for one minute. Then they all leave. It pisses me off so bad... :cuss:

So I wanna know what you guys think I should do in my situation...now don't get me wrong... there are TONS of hot girls on the beach, but the problem is that 90% of the time they come in groups. And quite simply, I don't have the confidence to approach a 2-set of college girls tanning on the sand, reading, or sleeping.

Is there a better place where I can find singles, or what?? And please don't suggest malls--I've tried malls and they are HORRIBLE for finding single girls.

Any advice would be great...
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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the way i look at is that we are all people on earth and in a relatively short period of time none of us will be here. so approaching a group of girls that you think are fuccable is such a small little task. The absolute WORST scenerio that you can have is them telling you to fucc off.

then when i put that little thought in my head..i immediately transition into the thought patterns of my AFC brethern and how they don't pick their girls but actually marry the chicks or date the chicks they just happen to cross paths with.

Dog..I want to pick the chick that I roll with. Very rarely will some bad ass ride or die bytch just cross your path out of happenstance. You need to go hunting for that chick like you are on some Indiana Jones type sh1t.

So I'm crusin in my whip on a daily basis on a hunt for chicks that can play on my roster.

Requirements.

1. Must like 2 Pac
2. Good Teeth, Face, and body
3. No Kids
4. Fondness for Animals
5. Pu$$y must be semi-tight
6. Enjoys 8 bit nintendo
 

realsmoothie

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Jester090 said:
As someone with only a week of sarging experience under my belt, I'm wondering how one gathers the confidence to approach groups of 2 or more girls [no guys]. I'm 18 and I usually go solo to approach girls at the beach, but my main problem is chicks are ALWAYS with their friends, family, or boyfriends, leaving a VERY small quantity of singles that I can actually approach! And the ones who are by themselves are usually not attractive. Seriously, I average about 1 approach per day, and usually the girls I approach are with one or two girlfriends, but the ocean waves periodically split up their group and that's when I go in.

Here's what always happens: I start talking to one of the girls in the 3 set (when she's by herself), and then her friends notice she's talking to me, get jealous that she was the one approached, and pull her away from me before I even get a chance to chat for one minute. Then they all leave. It pisses me off so bad... :cuss:

So I wanna know what you guys think I should do in my situation...now don't get me wrong... there are TONS of hot girls on the beach, but the problem is that 90% of the time they come in groups. And quite simply, I don't have the confidence to approach a 2-set of college girls tanning on the sand, reading, or sleeping.

Is there a better place where I can find singles, or what?? And please don't suggest malls--I've tried malls and they are HORRIBLE for finding single girls.

Any advice would be great...
Someone else will say this better... but if you're getting "jealousy" problems with the other girls stopping you from talking to your target... then talk to someone OTHER than your target first. Preferrably the ugliest one.
 

rocky_mtn

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The one chick in a group is a tough pickup. Some hints I can offer are

- look for the chick starring around checking things out within the group. Most of them will be huddled together, but if you see one not into in the chich circle then work your way in. Look for women who are on the edge of "the pack", they are looking for someone to approach, the one who is talking non-stop in a huddle isn't one that wants to meet someone.

- after the initial into and banter, get isolated, dancing works best, going to the patio or outside to see the stars might work, going to get drinks might work (but buying her a drink is generally a bad idea)

- don't isolate her from her friends too much, if they butt in or she wants to go hang with them then go back and hang out with your friends or move on. I need to work on this, but I have found that her friends usually come first, and if she's into you she will fend her friends off, but if you try to do that, it's a losing battle

The best way is to make good with the entire group, (assuming a small group of 3 or 4) , introduce yourself to everyone, talk to everyone. Asking people how they know each other gets you some good info and it gets them talking and feeling comfortable.

Sarge on. :woo:
 

Jester090

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rocky_mtn said:
The best way is to make good with the entire group, (assuming a small group of 3 or 4) , introduce yourself to everyone, talk to everyone. Asking people how they know each other gets you some good info and it gets them talking and feeling comfortable.
While this is good advice, I can't handle groups of 3+ yet. I haven't even mastered single sets yet, so there's no way I could see myself doing groups already.

As for the guy who recommended going for the uglier one first, I've tried this, and it seems no matter which girl I approach, she immediately gets called away by her friends as if she's in danger or something.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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