"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Building "comfort" on OLD is for cowards comfortable staying online.

GFella

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If you're beating around the bush, trying to "build comfort" "establish a connection" with chicks on OLD you're doing nothing more than being a coward instead of pulling the trigger, getting her number and setting up a meet.

Don't know why PUA / "dating coaches" ever gave that kind of advice unless they're frauds or insecure cowards themselves.

Better to "build comfort" in person than be insecure and d1ck around chit chatting on a website. If you're worried asking for her number or a meet will abruptly end even the least form of contact with the opposite sex then you either need to be not only secure with yourself looking the same or better in person than your online pics, but secure in that even if she were to just ghost you can move on to the next.

Minimal back and forth convos on OLD. Tell her to give you her number and you'll send her a text with yours to talk off the site. Then set up a meet.

Unless you think keeping it online playing out a fantasy "perfect" scenario is "better". All you're doing is slowly increasing looking like a coward, her thinking you might not be the dude she likes in the photos and getting bored, or laying out all your cards like a one and done movie instead of a popular series that she can't wait to see the next episode.

Pull the trigger. Get her number and a meet as soon as you can.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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