"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Building a Social Life from the Ground Up?

Cheeks

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Let's say you're in your late twenties, you've lost touch with all of your old friends from years ago, and you live in a relatively dull environment. Every night you find yourself with nothing to do but watch movies at home or whatever.

How do you get out of this rut? Where do you even begin? I've tried meet up.com, but all of the meet ups in my area are aimed at weird hippies or aging housewives. I used to be able to go out to a bar on my own when I was a bit younger, but I never had any real success with that.

I want to take up some hobbies like shooting, knife throwing, and other bad ass stuff like that, but these are mostly solitary endeavors. What is the best way to end up in a situation where you meet lots of interesting people?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Burroughs

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Cheeks said:
I want to take up some hobbies like shooting, knife throwing, and other bad ass stuff like that, but these are mostly solitary endeavors. What is the best way to end up in a situation where you meet lots of interesting people?
The best way to meet interesting people is to be interesting yourself. Find the nearest cafe or bookstore even if its a hike and make it your own.

Do the meetup thing, you might find some knife throwing hippies :)
 

Die Hard

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Sign up for salsa classes. You'll meet new people there, but that's just the tip of the iceberg coz there are salsa parties organized almost any day of the week, which you can go to! No more waiting for the weekend, you can go out any day then!!
 

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Cheeks said:
Let's say you're in your late twenties, you've lost touch with all of your old friends from years ago, and you live in a relatively dull environment. Every night you find yourself with nothing to do but watch movies at home or whatever.

How do you get out of this rut? Where do you even begin? I've tried meet up.com, but all of the meet ups in my area are aimed at weird hippies or aging housewives. I used to be able to go out to a bar on my own when I was a bit younger, but I never had any real success with that.

I want to take up some hobbies like shooting, knife throwing, and other bad ass stuff like that, but these are mostly solitary endeavors. What is the best way to end up in a situation where you meet lots of interesting people?
You already know the answer: hobbies. My suggestion is to try and match up your interests with things that are going to put you in contact with the kind of women you are interested in. If you like photography and models, learn photography semi-professionally. If you like fitness girls and work out, go do Crossfit or climbing which both have lots of women involved in.

The key is to pick hobbies you're genuinely are interested in. Also, check out meetup.com for stuff in your area that might be of interest to you.
 

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Dear Die Hard,
Have you forgotten your excellent post on Yoga Lessons?Dance classes and this would seem the way to go.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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lifeislearning

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Is meetup.com any sort of dating site? I always love finding people who share the same hobbies, but have a gf, and do not want to be on a dating site.
 
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