"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Building a social circle and meeting girls

Maxtro

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The spring semester has just started and I want to make sure that this semester is better then the last. There are a few things I want to accomplish. First off I want to be around as many women as possible. Second is I want to be a part of a social circle. I spent most of my first semester alone and it wasn't that fun.

Right now is the time to join clubs and the first meetings are being held this week. I want to be around and make friends with girls and cool guys (who know girls). In other words no matter how much I love Anime and Video Games those clubs would most likely be nothing but nerdy guys and wouldn't be helpful in accomplishing my goals.

So far I've decided to attend the Salsa Club and Surf Club meetings that will be happening this weeks. I actually took Salsa last semester and I'm taking another dance class this semester so I know that the salsa club will have a ton of girls. Also dancing with girls is just fun. I've always had an interest in surfing but I've never done it. So I'll learn how to surf and possibly make some friends with decent guys. I can start going to parties and stuff.

Does anybody know any other actives that I can do, to be around women and make cool friends?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Scars

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Congrats on trying to step out of your comfort zone and trying to improve your social life. Salsa and surfing clubs sound excellent. Perhaps you could do something music related? Sports obviously, or auto for meeting "cool guys".
 

BustedKnucks

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When I'm in a place where I don't know anyone, I make sure to be light-hearted, confident, and as outgoing as possible. There we will always be some nights where drunkards in bars will want to fight for no reason, but in a school atmosphere during the day this sort of approach to new people is an excellent tool for networking. Women will be attracted to you and like-minded men will remember your face and your views and be friendlier each time you see them.
 
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