One of my buds called me. He currently lives in the southwest, so I was a little surprised he called me at work today. I guess he needed to talk with somebody. I didn’t give him any advice.
He is in his early 40s and she is in her mid 40s. Both are attractive people. They have been “dating” exclusively for a year. She has a small grandson and an adult daughter (I believe she might be in her early 20 to mid 20s). His girlfriend lives alone, but her daughter and grandkid lives in the same State.
It appears that in the past he has been supportive of all of them (no money related, but as doing favors, etc.). He has a daughter from a previous marriage and she and he scheduled a weekend to be together (just both of them). Now, his girlfriend’s daughter is moving to another apartment that particular weekend. He found that out last night (he claims that he cannot cancel his meeting with his daughter – which is a minor). His girlfriend understands that he won’t be helping with the move. In fact, he told me that she is not expecting him to help with the move because of his appointment with his child. However, he owns a very nice truck (mint condition, etc.). And she was expecting him to lend her his truck. (I own a truck and I personally don’t care if my girlfriend drives it, but this guy has a truck that looks as good as any luxury car). She wants to drive the truck so her daughter and some of her friends use it for the move. He tells me that he doesn’t mind helping with his truck if he is there. But, he feels very uncomfortable having his truck used by them for the purpose of moving stuff around. Needless to say, his girlfriend is extremely pissed off with him.
I think that in the past, he has helped his ex-wife bring a dresser for his daughter from the furniture store. His girlfriend knows that. But he tells me that it is not the same to pick something from the store than to have his truck used all day for a move. He also told me that he feels that going the extra mile for his daughter (which is a child) and doing that for a woman that is an adult and has several male friends is not the same. And he feels he is unfairly expected to provide support for his girlfriends adult daughter.
He tells me that when he told his girlfriend that he has helped them in the past…then his girlfriend replied that the "past is the past and now we are in the present". He told me some of the favors that he has done and quite honestly, he has done more than I would personally do under the same circumstances. She also told him that “her baby (the mid 20s daughter) needs help” and that is something her "boyfriend should do for me [her]".
He is in his early 40s and she is in her mid 40s. Both are attractive people. They have been “dating” exclusively for a year. She has a small grandson and an adult daughter (I believe she might be in her early 20 to mid 20s). His girlfriend lives alone, but her daughter and grandkid lives in the same State.
It appears that in the past he has been supportive of all of them (no money related, but as doing favors, etc.). He has a daughter from a previous marriage and she and he scheduled a weekend to be together (just both of them). Now, his girlfriend’s daughter is moving to another apartment that particular weekend. He found that out last night (he claims that he cannot cancel his meeting with his daughter – which is a minor). His girlfriend understands that he won’t be helping with the move. In fact, he told me that she is not expecting him to help with the move because of his appointment with his child. However, he owns a very nice truck (mint condition, etc.). And she was expecting him to lend her his truck. (I own a truck and I personally don’t care if my girlfriend drives it, but this guy has a truck that looks as good as any luxury car). She wants to drive the truck so her daughter and some of her friends use it for the move. He tells me that he doesn’t mind helping with his truck if he is there. But, he feels very uncomfortable having his truck used by them for the purpose of moving stuff around. Needless to say, his girlfriend is extremely pissed off with him.
I think that in the past, he has helped his ex-wife bring a dresser for his daughter from the furniture store. His girlfriend knows that. But he tells me that it is not the same to pick something from the store than to have his truck used all day for a move. He also told me that he feels that going the extra mile for his daughter (which is a child) and doing that for a woman that is an adult and has several male friends is not the same. And he feels he is unfairly expected to provide support for his girlfriends adult daughter.
He tells me that when he told his girlfriend that he has helped them in the past…then his girlfriend replied that the "past is the past and now we are in the present". He told me some of the favors that he has done and quite honestly, he has done more than I would personally do under the same circumstances. She also told him that “her baby (the mid 20s daughter) needs help” and that is something her "boyfriend should do for me [her]".
