Brutal congruence tests from girls AND guys

[The_Reaper]

I mean YOU in the general sense of the person getting that response Brah! lol. Don't be a girl and take everything so personally.

The person getting shut down like that by a female is either clueless, looks weak, or just ran across and woman with a ****ty personality. Does that break it down for you a little better?

Poor word choice. But, no matter.

The point is, you can do everything right and still get $hit tested - you might just be dealing with a complete and utter c*nt who will try to embarass you in front of a group.

Imo, you should be ready for that. Being prepared for all outcomes builds confidence.

 

[The_Reaper]

There is no politically correct comebacks for "Shut up Phaggot" unless you're Joe Rogan or a funny-as-hell comedian that can obliterate you're opponent in minutes, whoever says these horrible manhood taking words basically just called you out for a fight. Fvck being some nerd with a comeback and trying to win over the audience, this isn't KBJ'ing, I will use Wanderlei Silva's Mad Dog eyes before calculating a barrage of mixed assaults, how can some guy shout out at you "Shut up phaggot" and you want to come back with words? Really Sammyboy?

No way in hell, man.

Yeah, Rogan would obliterate anyone who said something like that.

He's an alpha, and an all round cool guy. He could probably pull insane p*ssy if he wanted to.

 

[The_Reaper]

I see you practice the fine art of mind reading on a regular basis! Good for you!

Yes, I'm not afflicted with autism.

 

[Rescue Mission]

These aren't congruency tests - instead, if guys and girls are constantly insulting you, then clearly you are coming off as a creepy weird dude (those kind of guys are the ones who have sex the least).

Why is it, again, that some of you guys have your heads SO FAR UP your own azzes, that you can't understand that if you are being insulted, then you are NOT BEING FVCKING TESTED FOR CONGRUENCE, YOU ARE SIMPLY BEING TOLD THAT YOU ARE A CREEPY WEIRD MORON.

I suggest changing yourself to the point where you won't hear girls asking "why are you talking to me weirdo?" and guys randomly laughing at you and screaming "faggot!!"

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

To those who live to talk about and judge others, I ask "What great victories do you have to your credit to qualify you to judge others accurately?"

Unanimously, every winner I've ever known was not a hater by nature and every hater I've ever known was an underachieving commoner.

People turn their focus outward because it's so much easier than facing their own conscience and shortcomings. If I call attention to your perceived differences, then you won't notice mine.

And you are NOT whatever some random idiot who yells "faggot" or whatever some random girl tells you you are. The way of all successful men is to stand against a brutal tide of effrontery, and to laugh in the face of it, for you focus on what YOU are doing versus watching everybody else and nitpicking. Opinions are the cheapest commodities on earth.

The only reason someone would be compelled to "test" you is if they were threatened by you. Are they going to test Steve Erkel? Didn't think so.

Success is the business of standing out, not fitting in.
But if you are going to stand out, see that you are outstanding.

 

[Disco]

why would you beat someone up for calling you a f@g, seems kind of silly and totally against what you should do. personally i'd agree and say "i already decided, you are so pretty that if i f*ck you at the end of the night it wouldn't even be gay". i promise they will not say sh!t to you the rest of the night.

 

[The_Reaper]

I need to clarify something.
Normally when a dude calls you "phaggot" or "w*nker" or something like that, it's masked as a joke and is semi-playful. ("it's ok, we know each other, we're just busting balls")

Most of you are imagining it's some random guy. Few guys would have the balls or social retardation to call you a phaggot if they don't know you.

I'm talking about friends trying to jostle for female attention, male bragging and slagging pissing matches, a drunken douche you sort of know "messing" with you, an acquaintance or quasi-friend trying to tool you and exert dominance over you by slagging you in front of other people, etc, etc, etc.

To those who live to talk about and judge others, I ask "What great victories do you have to your credit to qualify you to judge others accurately?"

Unanimously, every winner I've ever known was not a hater by nature and every hater I've ever known was an underachieving commoner.

People turn their focus outward because it's so much easier than facing their own conscience and shortcomings. If I call attention to your perceived differences, then you won't notice mine.

And you are NOT whatever some random idiot who yells "faggot" or whatever some random girl tells you you are. The way of all successful men is to stand against a brutal tide of effrontery, and to laugh in the face of it, for you focus on what YOU are doing versus watching everybody else and nitpicking. Opinions are the cheapest commodities on earth.

The only reason someone would be compelled to "test" you is if they were threatened by you. Are they going to test Steve Erkel? Didn't think so.

Success is the business of standing out, not fitting in.
But if you are going to stand out, see that you are outstanding.

Good post. Very true about haters.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

No, I addressed that subtext specifically. Those who feel compelled to start a pissing contest, or to mess with you, do so because they feel inadequate to achieve their desired outcome ON THEIR OWN MERITS, so they have to pull you down to get up.

 

[JdelaSilviera]

Here are some congruence tests which can really throw you off. I plan to compile some good responses to these, and I'd be interested to see if any of you would care to try some. Perhaps pick a few of these and describe how you'd respond.

From girls

"Why are you talking to me?" I lost a bet
"Weirdo" Very
"Kiddo Very
"Aw, that's sweet" Thank you sugar, but don´t get used to it
"What are you doing?" (while going for the kiss) You have bird **** on your head. Or you have something dirty in your face lol

[These can be said in a jokey way, but you still need good answers]:
"Loser"
"Nerd/geek"

These ones can be asked by both genders:
"Have you read The Game?"
"Do you know who Mystery/David Deangelo/[insert PUA] is?"


Douchey guys trying to knock your confidence:

"Why aren't you drinking, you wussy?" Do you want me drunk to **** me? what Faggot
"The state of your nose/skin/face!" Yeah this way women will know I´m only human

"Shut up phaggot" your moma

"What is this guy on about?"
"Was I talking to you?" This is just rude, say you don´t need his permission to talk
"I'm just messin with ya bro!"
*Grabbing, touching, or pawing at you* (trying to exert dominance this way)


Aaaaand, that's it. So, pick a couple of these, as many as you want, and describe how you'd deal with them!

Just some immediate stuff... your atittude is more important than your answers...

 

[The_Reaper]

No, I addressed that subtext specifically. Those who feel compelled to start a pissing contest, or to mess with you, do so because they feel inadequate to achieve their desired outcome ON THEIR OWN MERITS, so they have to pull you down to get up.

I know, that's correct.

I was referring to the majority of replies.

Also, even though people insult others due to their own character flaws, knowing this fact is not enough. You have to be able to obliterate these people.

 

[zekko]

Are they going to test Steve Erkel? Didn't think so.

No way. Because he would bust out that kung fu stuff on them.

Reaper, good point about it being a very different situation coming from a friend as opposed to some random dude.

 

[CaptainJ]

Just some immediate stuff... your atittude is more important than your answers...

^^ This. It does not really matter what words you respond with. What matters is that your body shows that what they have said does not affect you in anyway, and you could not give two ****s about their opinion.

Personally I'm good at banter and comebacks, although at times I don't even have to say a witty comeback and I'll still win, because I maintain a mindset of not giving 2 ****s and this is expressed in my body language.

Here's an example:
At a party, a bigger guy then me was trying to put me down by asking how much I bench, I answer then he immediately quips back that he can do 30kg more than me. I just calmly say "I didn't realise we were competing" with a smile on my face and he started backtracking realising I had shown him up for bragging. He then apologised to me later telling me that he wasn't competing either, when I had forgotten all about it.

Another example was where a guy at a house party said "You're big but I'm bigger than you" out of the blue, I just went "That's cool" and walked off.

Another important point is investment, when they invest a lot into the attempted put down, and you respond with equal investment, you're going to lose eg. responding to "Shut up phaggot" by fighting him - you lose.
But when you respond with no investment, then you automatically win eg. "Shut up Phaggot" "Sure (sarcastic)"

Less is more. it doesn't even need to be witty, just respond in a curt sarcastic manner, or simply laugh like they've said something stupid. Never stoop down to their level.

 

[Zarky]

Reminds me of something Alexander the Great said when his tutors were teaching him military strategy. They'd ask, "What would you do if you were in [X] situation and [Y] happened?" He'd just say, "Put me in that situation and let's see what I do." He had enough confidence to trust his ability to do the right thing when the actual situation arose, even if he didn't know what that was beforehand.

 

[The_Reaper]

CaptainJ, that's excellent, good post.

I think it was Tyler who said that, if you have an emotional response to someone, it implicitly means they have power over you.

A dismissive non-response is POWERFUL.

 

[Warrior74]

Poor word choice. But, no matter.

The point is, you can do everything right and still get $hit tested - you might just be dealing with a complete and utter c*nt who will try to embarass you in front of a group.

Imo, you should be ready for that. Being prepared for all outcomes builds confidence.

LOL. you can't be prepared for all outcomes. That's the whole point. Whatever man its a lame ass thread and you know it. It reeks of insecurity, worrying about what could happen is as beta and weak as it gets. phaggot! LOL

 

[The_Reaper]

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[Cry For Love]

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Cmon are you gonna just take that insult? Look at what he called you :box: