"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Brothers, I need YOUR opinion... (not TOO long ;) )

DJatNewYork

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Hello all my brothers,PUAs, and soon-to-be-PUAs ;)

I got a question about this girl... I don't know if I should next her or not, I need your opinion on this one.


I took a co-worker out last Friday, we had a blast, we hung out, went to the movie (LOTS of touching in the movie), holding hands, on the FIRST date.

I worked out with her today and I asked her if she wanted to go ice skating. She said, "Yeah sure"

So, I call her once... she doesnt pick up. Second time, (25 mins later) it automatically goes to her voicemail. There was no third time. I waited and she called me back (about 15 mins later) and she said she was in the library, and she turned off her cell... OK.

I asked her if she still wanted to go, she said she has to ask her parents if she can go. (She is a goody girl) Of course I knew this was an excuse and she said she'll call me back.

At this time, I already turned the car away and headed back home. 15 mins later she calls and we talk for a little bit... I make her laugh and whatnot, but she says she got bad news, she can't go. BUT, she can go out tomorrow night. She asked me "what about tomorrow" I said "We'll see what happens"


Now, my opinion is, should I NEXT her or what? I really want to get to know her, because she has the one of the best personalites I've come across...

My plan is to not really talk to her until like Friday... show her that I don't need her, playing hard to get, you catch my drift.


Thanks for reading, ALL opinions are welcome :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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wanga

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Well, meetings / dates should generally be on your terms, but at the same time I get the vibe she's being pretty honest with you.

A lot of times your gut feeling is the right way to go, so If you think you should meet up with her tomorrow then do it.

I wouldn't next her because she hasn't done anything.

If you wait too long she might loose attraction, but in any case.. you can try to wait 'till Friday, but the problem with that is she may have to go through the whole "parent asking" thing.

Stay Frosty.
 

The Bad Ass Canadian

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A general rule is that if she declines without a counter-offer... then next her.

In this case she offered to see you the next day, so it's still on. If she cancels again, I'd get suspicious.
 

DJatNewYork

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I really do want to see her and spend time with her... but I don't want to come off as "weak" or "nothing else to do" kind of thing... you know?

I lost a lot of girls this way... it took me a LONG time to hold myself above women, and this is the first girl I'm doing this to. I just don't want to lose interest, you know?

Also, she texts me like everyday, then sometimes I reply, sometimes I dont ;)
 

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I wouldn't "next" her yet, no. She seems like she's being legit with you. Just don't make it look like you're overeager to spend alot of time w/her right away , and you should be golden.

~Dino
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hey man I dont know if this is to late, but my advice is this.....don't next her as one of the other guys said she hasnt done any thing wrong....however to come across so your not looking needy.....tell her you can't see her tomorrow, but in 2 days time you will be free......then tell her to ask her parents now so she knows.... if she starts to make excuses just say "no seriously come......trust me it will be fun"
Good Luck
 

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Give her two options when you try to set up a time. "OK, I am free Tuesday or Thursday... which is better for you?"
 
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