"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Brotherly advice would be cool.

FindingMyCool

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I have a situation that I could probably handle but am feeling I could benefit for my peers advice.
So, I met this girl, she would be my finest catch and she came to me. She thinks am sexy – I know it ;-), we've made out and things were rolling along so smoothly...

but she's a hard project, just out a two year relationship, she's struggling to support herself, student like myself, cash flow isn’t great but am getting by fine...not the point.
Recently she has become distant, instead of her texting me all the time, I have been initiating texts... The realer things seem to get the further she steps back...
I fear I may have played the game too hard on this one, I have been out the game for a while (in a relationship I ended on good terms) and she thinks I’m not that interested in her and not taking her seriously enough... she told me she is very insecure so I have been flexing some charm and she has responded positively to my charm but it’s been over a week since I last saw her and things are far from steady smooth. She is busy with her college and arts but I am not one for patience.

So my game plan is to distance myself, if she hasn’t contacted me in a few days, text her... we’ll meet with some friends at a pub/bar, I’ll straighten things out and try for a – her and I only - date.
Is there anything I could do to make things run smoother? Something I should say? Should my game plan change?
Not looking for any forget about her lines... I always get the girl, even if it’s only for that in yo face fcuk
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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slaog

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FindingMyCool said:
Recently she has become distant, instead of her texting me all the time, I have been initiating texts...

...she told me she is very insecure so I have been flexing some charm and she has responded positively to my charm but it’s been over a week since I last saw her...

First rule in reading women is that you judge them by thier actions, not their words. She told you shes insecure and blah blah blah. Her actions says that you're not that important to her anymore.


You also made the mistake of initiating the texts when she stopped. This clearly says that she has become less interested and you've become desperate not to loose her. That made her even less attracted to you because it revealed your AFC side although she already saw that and thats the reason she stopped texting.


Its over with her but you can learn from you mistakes and move on. At least it won't be a waste of your time if you earn the lessons. :up:
 

slaog

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FindingMyCool said:
Recently she has become distant, instead of her texting me all the time, I have been initiating texts...

...she told me she is very insecure so I have been flexing some charm and she has responded positively to my charm but it’s been over a week since I last saw her...

First rule in reading women is that you judge them by thier actions, not their words. She told you shes insecure and blah blah blah. Her actions says that you're not that important to her anymore.


You also made the mistake of initiating the texts when she stopped. This clearly says that she has become less interested and you've become desperate not to loose her. That made her even less attracted to you because it revealed your AFC side although she already saw that and thats the reason she stopped texting.


Its over with her but you can learn from you mistakes and move on. At least it won't be a waste of your time if you earn the lessons. :up:
 
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