"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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maybe the girl your reffering to thinks of you as a brother coz you act accordingly.. and maybe you act like her brother without even knowing it..

you could also be stuck in the friends zone. it would be a Rare occasion for you to escape the friends zone..but try reading Mr. Fingers article..is it Mr fingers?? well anyways its the "Escaping the friends Zone" post

know I probably am too nice to them and care too much about how they feel.
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see you said it yourself..you know about the fact that your being too nice to them..your breaking major rules Paisan...

stay on their romantic side fratello..if you want girls to stop treating you as a friend..then stop treating her as one..treat her as if she was your girlfriend..

be assholish?? hmm lemme think maybe Jirkish would do...but then again i think those 2 are quite similar...hehe..

i suggest you read the Djbible more or even the tips you see in the home page..

But then again..its just my opinion..i could always be wrong..
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Brother??

Well I normally don't hear about brothers boning their sisters....so you are definetely in the "friend zone".

Are you interested in dating these girls? If you are, it's time to start getting C+F, showing interest, or just ask them out.

I hope this helps....wouldn't want you to start getting assholish. ;)
 
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Wait, so you are attracting the girls that you like and they still will not go out with you?

It sounds like you need to change your approach. See if you can sense any interest on their part towards you....that might make things easier: you can kind of eliminate the ones that you see have very little or no interest at all.

How are you asking them out? What I mean by this is, "what are you saying to these girls when you ask them out?"

I'm not sure if you are picking girls that are out of your league, but in my opinion, that doesn't really matter. More importantly, (I'm sure you've heard this before) do not put any girl on a pedestal. Her interest level will fall faster than Clinton's approval rating. ;)
 
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It depends if she means younger or older brother. Older brothers are usually caring and very protective of their sisters, while younger ones are innocent, naive and at times annoying (it all depends on your age really). I think she views you like an older brother because you always listen to her problems and you are, in your own words 'too nice to them and care too much about how they feel'.
 
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Girls know what they are saying when they say this. They aren't retarded.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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When girls tell you that you are just like a brother to them, they know EXACTLY what they are doing. They are trying to tell you that she won't ever have sex with you, but she won't mind you around to do brotherly things for her (gifts, dinner, ect).

If you were interested in a woman, would this sort of compliment come out of your mouth?

"Hey baby, you're so hot, you're like a sister to me."
 
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Originally posted by Pfeile
It depends if she means younger or older brother.
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I don't see how it makes a difference. Brothers, normally, don't get to bone their sisters. Being labeled a brother must suck....
 
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i didn't read all the posts.
If a girl said I'm like a brother... I'd probably cry. lol. nah but that sucks...and has never happened, thank god.
 
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