"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So I have this friend who may or may not have oneitis. If he does, I guess I dont care, but here's the deal. He is constantly flaking on me and my other friend Alex to hang out with his gf. Like, I'll make plans with him in advance sometimes and he'll seem interested, then he won't answer his phone and I find out later he was with his girl.

The worst part is when I call him out on it, he just tries to make up rules like "I had already made plans, therefore I did not violate bros before hoes." But he never tells me he has plans when tell him I want to hang out, he only says that after the fact.

The worst occasion was when I called him to come over and he said he would, but only if his gf didn't call him in the coming hour or something. So of course I waited like an hour for him to come over and I called him to see what's up and guess what, he was still waiting for her call. Major bullsh'it if you ask me.

I was wondering what you guys think, is this guy worth keeping as a friend if I cant count on him to have a little will power or at least try to wear the pants in his relationship for just one night to say "no, i gotta hang out with the guys." Or should I just forget about him?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If there is ever any doubt, there is no doubt.
 

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call him out on it but dont act like a *****. tell him to get a reality check. that no ***** is ever worth losing all of your friends for. friends are there with you forever and a girl might leave u the next day.. say that to him if he says shut the **** up. or anything along those lines then just stop trying. dont invite him to parties. hook up with alot of girls go to the beach with alot of girls go to video game tournaments do **** they u know he would love doing. and say dude i told you to come over but u was waiting for that phone call remember. go to barbecues. just do mad **** thats fun for you and him but go with different people. trust me this will work
 
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thanks guys. does anybody else have any feedback for what I should do with this major violator of BBH (bros before hoes)?
 

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Whenever he mentions her, make that whipping sound (whipppishhhh!) That'll help.

Don't you love those guys who get a gf for 3 months and then stop having a social life for every day of those 3 months?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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whipped guy. I know lots of friends like him. hehehhehe. I will never ever behave like that.
 

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Don't you hate those garden implements?

I was once a ***** whipped little ***** who dogged my friends for some poon. (read afc)

When she dumped me and broke my heart all those friends who I let down time and time again to be with my girl were still there for me.

Thats what true friendship is.

JJ
 
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Phyzzle said:
Whenever he mentions her, make that whipping sound (whipppishhhh!) That'll help.

Don't you love those guys who get a gf for 3 months and then stop having a social life for every day of those 3 months?
Exactly! That's this guy to a point.
 

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I'd just wait it out. I'm sure you have other friends you can hang out with so let him alone for a while. Don't call him to hang out or go out and spend some time with your other friends. After a while he'll get sick of his g/f and want to start hanging out with his boys again. When he comes back review things like adult.

That whipping idea is funny and all but the chances of him coming back to his senses after that are no better then just riding it out. Infact it could make him even more of an AFC if he starts confiding in her about how you hurt his feelings if that happens. Still, snubbing him and freezing him out of the loop for a bit is a better way to go.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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PRMoon said:
I'd just wait it out. I'm sure you have other friends you can hang out with so let him alone for a while. Don't call him to hang out or go out and spend some time with your other friends. After a while he'll get sick of his g/f and want to start hanging out with his boys again. When he comes back review things like adult.

That whipping idea is funny and all but the chances of him coming back to his senses after that are no better then just riding it out. Infact it could make him even more of an AFC if he starts confiding in her about how you hurt his feelings if that happens. Still, snubbing him and freezing him out of the loop for a bit is a better way to go.
You're not going to believe this. Three hours after I started this thread, that little sh'it just flaked on me again for his b'itch.
 

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And yet you act suprised. Just let him be man. Hang out withsome one else for a while. Friends does not mean joined at the hip. It may take a while of him being with this girl, especially if she's giving him good sex, for him to wake up. Really though, true friends will miss nights at the bar with their boys fairly soon.
 
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