Broken plates that contact you out of the blue

[teddy]

Plates that were broken beyond repair that somehow contact you out of the blue later. Does this happen? Do you even care? Is it usually AW that do this?

 

[VikingKing]

Depends on what happened. Maybe they are curious about what happened to you, maybe they don't have much going on and seek some validation.

 

[TheCWord]

Best way to cut out the guessing game and not waste your time is to ask for a date, and be clear it's a date. You get your answer instantly! If she wants the teddy she accepts, if she makes excuses with no counter offer she just wanted some attention.

 

[gravityeyelids]

tell her "come over tonight at 8:30. Bring a bottle of red wine, a movie and rubbers"

 

[teddy]

Best way to cut out the guessing game and not waste your time is to ask for a date, and be clear it's a date. You get your answer instantly! If she wants the teddy she accepts, if she makes excuses with no counter offer she just wanted some attention.

I like this advice, but some say that you shouldn't ask for a date right away when a woman contacts you out of the blue because it makes you seem too eager. That being indifferent is the way to go.

 

[Starfvcks 64]

I like this advice, but some say that you shouldn't ask for a date right away when a woman contacts you out of the blue because it makes you seem too eager. That being indifferent is the way to go.

Here is what I'd say, and what I've said in the past:
"Hey, it's been a while, we need to catch up! What night are you free for drinks?"

Not necessarily those exact words, but they get the job done.

She'd say: "LOL Starfvcks you're such a cool guy! I'm free Monday night!"
(maybe not the first part)
Me: "Cool, meet me at {place and time} and wear something nice so we match"

The "wear something nice" part is good for a few reasons. You can gauge her response to tell if she's thinking of it as a "date."
Either way, when she's out with you treat it as a casual date (and don't pay).

 

[om1xr]

Broken plates will contact you for two selfish reasons:
1- Desperation
2- Fishing for attention/seeking validation

the best thing to do is ask for a date ===> actions speak louder than words

if she said no for the date then you know what's the real deal behind their contacting!

 

[Albatross953]

Even if you do get the date its an uphill battle on the interest level. If she was really interested she would never have left...

 

[goodganji44]

I like this advice, but some say that you shouldn't ask for a date right away when a woman contacts you out of the blue because it makes you seem too eager. That being indifferent is the way to go.

There's truth to that. But beneath the surface, indifference is truly not giving a fck. You ask for the date, might get a yes and get some poon out of it. Or you'll get a no and skip the BS back and forth chats and phone convos that the woman's going to need to get her attention fix. A quick "let's get together at XXXXXXX and catch up is only 30 seconds of your time. If she says no, it gives you a chance to eject first by going back to NC.

 

[abe0]

tell her "come over tonight at 8:30. Bring a bottle of red wine, a movie and rubbers"

Best answer.....I had one of those. We were on and off again for a while till enough was enough. Then a few months later called me telling she misses me and wanted to get together for lunch. I told her to stop over after work with a bottle of wine.....I got lucky that night but have not heard from her since. Probably another borderline.
Abe