broked up with LTR: tried to aprroach new girl

[Mr.Speed]

hey folks,

i just broke up with my gf,after 1 year + 2 months.

so i thought,lets give it a try and aprroach a new girl. unfortunately, I have been out for this **** datin game, for a year.

anyway, I tried to pick up, this cute blonde and shy blonde. I didn't know what to say at first, so tried to do some eye contact, it worked a little. my buddy said, i should go for it, so i did and i improvised my "pick up line".

me: Hey, you enjoy this place?

she: no, I hate it!

me: why? its pretty crouded (about 500 people)

she: I dont like it!

me: anyway, my name is ..., and you are?

she: I am christine

me: so, christine. are you often here? I dont know this place, its my first time here. is it good to come friday or saturday?

she: its my first time too,so i dont know

me: mmh, so okay. what do you do,usually?

she: right now, iam sitting here and talking to you

now, this was some sort of "smart a s s b i tch slap to me" i hate silly answers

me: no! i mean hobbies etc.

she: you know what? you suck!

me: what!?

she: please go away, i want to be alone with my friends now.

damn, this was hardest dump i have ever got!

what went wrong?

maybe you can help out

 

[mutambo]

To small extend I feel you were only asking questions right of the bat. That's not the foremost reason you failed I think. Sounds like a downright *****.. Who in their right minds says you suck. I would have just laughed and walked away laughing.

 

[LittleBigOne]

To Mr. Speed,

With all respect to you, but do you really care about a girl who is acting like the most impossible b!tch on this planet?
Mutambo is right, you should have walk away laughing and give it a try with another girl.
You do well by approaching girls but it looks you need to warm up a bit and get comfortable with it. She felt you were not confident enough. And you now, maybe she was in a bad mood, had a fight with someone or her little pet died the day before...so just better not think too much about it.
About your conversation. The questions you asked were pretty lame. Who cares if she likes the place or if she is having hobbies. Better ask opinion questions so she needs to talk instead of only saying 'yes' or 'no'.

LittleBigOne

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Wo wo wo wo wo . That was a bad shutdown . i know it hurts .

But u got long way to go before being succesfull with this .

That convo was really boring .. U gotta put more energy , more tension , talk about more interesting things than giving her a interview .

U also gotta use FALSE TIME CONSTRAIN ( very important ) from MM . FTC is when u pretend that ur going to leave in a minute .

U do this by body language and u can tell her that you will go back to your friends on a minute .

This is important cuz if you dont do it she may think THIS IDIOT IS GONNA STICK TO US FOR THE REST OF THE NIGHT .

But if u do FTC she will give u a change ...

Than move to attraction , build some confort , talk about interesting things , tell her interesting stories about what happened to you for social proof and such a things ..

 

[Mr.Speed]

LittleBigOne: "The questions you asked were pretty lame. Who cares if she likes the place or if she is having hobbies. Better ask opinion questions so she needs to talk instead of only saying 'yes' or 'no'."

Yeah I know, somehow my convo was pretty unintresting, but what I had in my mind,was "breaking the ice", to start a conversation. I didn't want to interview her, but she was somehow so boring,didn't asked anything about me, and I was doing hard in keeping up the conversation.

@ daddy the pimp: yeah, see. I forgot about this. Going in, small convo, get out, turn back, ask for digits etc. instead, I was standing there, like an idiot and tried to "fill the gaps".

my biggest problem is not the approach, I dont know what to say. somehow i am searching for a pretense to walk up to them. the problem is, you do not know them and they dont know you, so what to talk about,when you walk up to them.

this is infact my biggest problem, call it a "starter" or something like that.

man.. i really lost my vibe in that LTR..

 

[PectoralisMajor]

RE:she: right now, iam sitting here and talking to you

J3sus love, not anymore your not, i'm outa here.....

is that I would have said mate !