Broke up with my gf of 6 months; Need help getting back on track

[eaglez1177]

Hey all. About a week ago I finally dumped my girlfriend of about 6 months. I feel I made the right decision ending things, and its time for me to move on and enjoy the single life!

Only problem is that Im having a lot of trouble getting back on track with girls and getting some ass. I've gone from getting laid every week to getting absolutely nothing, and I've got a feeling this is gonna be a tough transition. Im looking at my girl options now, and I'm legit back at square one and I've got absolutely nothing to work with! Meaning no girls from my school, no girls at work, etc!

Have any of you guys been in this position before? Where you break up with someone and have trouble getting back on track and getting hookups, numbers, etc?

Can anyone give me some advice? Thanks

 

[thekcguyme]

Just get out there and talk to everyone you see. If a chick sets next to me at the bar I always try to start up a conversation now. Also wear something thats a bit unsual or a shirt that maybe describes you a little bit. It will give you something to talk about right way.

 

[eaglez1177]

Its just really tough going from a situation where I got ass all the time and now im in a situation where im getting nothing at all...its just like a really big hole im back in right now and idk how to get out of it

 

[Social Calibration]

Sounds more of a personal issue. You're just in a phase in your life right now, especially after that break up. Just try and keep your mind occupied elsewhere, work on your skills, build a robot, make pens, learn to cook, focus on your career and you'll be back on track before you know it. Oh, and even doing all those activities you'll be encountering other girls as well so use that to your advantage to up your attraction/rapport building skills.

 

[ontopfrombehind]

OP,

I am in the EXACT same situation you are. I've made myself go out a couple of times and enjoyed being social more than I thought I would.

My suggestions:

workout
clean like crazy
read
make yourself talk to people

Wish I had more definitive answers for you. Keep your head up.

 

[dthomas]

Expand your social circle. When you get into a relationship, your social circle diminishes and you aren't going out as much as you used to. Starting from square one is tough but everyone has to go through at certain points in their life, even if you're really good and let's say you move to a city where you don't know anyone. So go out and get involved in your community. Even if you live in a massive city, you can create a more intimate community by frequenting different places and simply social networking. And this is so much more effective than investing all of your energy in cold approaching. GO out and put your places where you will meet people. GO take an improv class, find a chill bar where you can befriend the barstaff. Get your coffee at a coffeeshop where a lot of attractive women work and chat them up every morning. Go to the gym and talk to everyone while working out. And my personal favorite right now for meeting women is a gold mine that Almost NO guys take advantage of: tanning salons. Every other day I go in to tan and in the waiting room I can be taking to 7 or 8 different gorgeous tan girls and NOT A man in sight. You have to be innovative and use a variety of outlets for meeting women. And then you'll notice after a few weeks or months, how many people you begin to see out, who you met in these places. Social circles are where it's at. But you have to get out of your house. You have to hustle. Hope this helps!

Cheers,
Brid****

 

[Roy]

Expand your social circle. When you get into a relationship, your social circle diminishes and you aren't going out as much as you used to. Starting from square one is tough but everyone has to go through at certain points in their life, even if you're really good and let's say you move to a city where you don't know anyone. So go out and get involved in your community. Even if you live in a massive city, you can create a more intimate community by frequenting different places and simply social networking. And this is so much more effective than investing all of your energy in cold approaching. GO out and put your places where you will meet people. GO take an improv class, find a chill bar where you can befriend the barstaff. Get your coffee at a coffeeshop where a lot of attractive women work and chat them up every morning. Go to the gym and talk to everyone while working out. And my personal favorite right now for meeting women is a gold mine that Almost NO guys take advantage of: tanning salons. Every other day I go in to tan and in the waiting room I can be taking to 7 or 8 different gorgeous tan girls and NOT A man in sight. You have to be innovative and use a variety of outlets for meeting women. And then you'll notice after a few weeks or months, how many people you begin to see out, who you met in these places. Social circles are where it's at. But you have to get out of your house. You have to hustle. Hope this helps!

Cheers,
Brid****

This has to be one of the best things i have read in a while! and 100% true!
Rep points for sure

 

[KontrollerX]

"Can anyone give me some advice? Thanks"

Sure.

The next time you are gearing up to dump a girl make sure you have swung to another branch before discarding the current girl.

That way you never go through a dry spell. :yes:

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Yes, having a back up girl to fall back on when you dump your current gf is nice. But, its sometimes better to go out and be single for awhile.

Everyone has been in your shoes.. Enjoy the single life!!

Just take what you learned and apply it in meeting new women. Patients is also a key.

 

[eaglez1177]

Okay thanks alot guys im gonna try really hard you all gave me some great advice so hopefully things will pay off!