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"Broke up" with LTR but she's contacting me everyday/sleeping with me?

Karim85

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Hey guys...I'll keep it short and sweet as I'm looking for opinions on my current situation.

I'm 29, GF was 22 so decent age gap. Were in an LTR for almost 2 years. In that time, never really had any rifts other than the occasional fight.

About two months ago, things just didn't vibe when we'd see eachother - everything she'd do would piss me off or vice versa - one of us would end up yelling at each other for something small though we'd squash it and end up making up sooner than later.

Couple weeks later, we got into a pretty explosive argument.. For context, during the argument, we both brought up some core issues we never really addressed throughout the relationship along with a couple typical discussions we've had during previous fights. I expressed I wasn't happy with the way things had been as of late but I was willing to work it out and keep going. She said she wasn't sure they could be fixed - particularly mentioning a lot of the core issues that came up during the big blow out. I told her then it's best we ended it now then waste any more time and I left. She cried but didn't dispute.

Right after, I went away on a guys weekend to clear my head. When I came home, I called her and told her to come get her stuff from my place. She drove over immediately sobbing, jumped my bones when she walked through the door and we had sex. She didn't take any of her stuff when she left. This was barely two days after our "break up"

Since that day, she's been calling me daily, calling me affectionate names, sending me selfies through out the day. We've gone out, ..she's always trying to hold my hand, cuddle up on me and we've been actively having sex.

In short, though we've been spending less time together, she's been initiating contact daily and everything else has pretty much been the same as when we were actively dating..

This doesn't really seem to be done other than the fact that we had a talk about breaking up. I've been talking to other girls since I'm not sure what's going to happen here and I hooked up with someone else this weekend so I'm not putting my eggs in one basket but I'd like this to work - I was happier with this girl then the 10 before her though I understand and accept this may be done for good.

Looking for advice here - what's my move? I've been letting her initiate most of the contact though I've been the one initiating the phdyical meet ups/sex and she's agreed to all of them.

And for the record, I'm going to continuing seeing and talking to other people while this is going on.

Thanks in advance,

K
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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She's young and she'll branch out sooner rather then later.

You're young too, you should be branching out until you're late 30's and when you've financially stable, had enough playing the field, then consider settling down with a steady girlfriend-LTR with a view of marriage after qualifying her for a minimum of 3 years. Get an LTR, preferably abt the age of 22-24 who's either a virgin or at the maximum had only 1 boyfriend in her past.
 
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Hey guys...I'll keep it short and sweet as I'm looking for opinions on my current situation.

I'm 29, GF was 22 so decent age gap. Were in an LTR for almost 2 years. In that time, never really had any rifts other than the occasional fight.

About two months ago, things just didn't vibe when we'd see eachother - everything she'd do would piss me off or vice versa - one of us would end up yelling at each other for something small though we'd squash it and end up making up sooner than later.

Couple weeks later, we got into a pretty explosive argument.. For context, during the argument, we both brought up some core issues we never really addressed throughout the relationship along with a couple typical discussions we've had during previous fights. I expressed I wasn't happy with the way things had been as of late but I was willing to work it out and keep going. She said she wasn't sure they could be fixed - particularly mentioning a lot of the core issues that came up during the big blow out. I told her then it's best we ended it now then waste any more time and I left. She cried but didn't dispute.

Right after, I went away on a guys weekend to clear my head. When I came home, I called her and told her to come get her stuff from my place. She drove over immediately sobbing, jumped my bones when she walked through the door and we had sex. She didn't take any of her stuff when she left. This was barely two days after our "break up"

Since that day, she's been calling me daily, calling me affectionate names, sending me selfies through out the day. We've gone out, ..she's always trying to hold my hand, cuddle up on me and we've been actively having sex.

In short, though we've been spending less time together, she's been initiating contact daily and everything else has pretty much been the same as when we were actively dating..

This doesn't really seem to be done other than the fact that we had a talk about breaking up. I've been talking to other girls since I'm not sure what's going to happen here and I hooked up with someone else this weekend so I'm not putting my eggs in one basket but I'd like this to work - I was happier with this girl then the 10 before her though I understand and accept this may be done for good.

Looking for advice here - what's my move? I've been letting her initiate most of the contact though I've been the one initiating the phdyical meet ups/sex and she's agreed to all of them.

And for the record, I'm going to continuing seeing and talking to other people while this is going on.

Thanks in advance,

K
My take is that she doesn't want to lose you... you instilled a fear of dread by being willing to walk away. What were the core issues that led to arguments?
 

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Your arguments with your gf looks like a power struggle here.either of you two want to be in in a top up position. Look like shes trying to makes things right.. Her action does show it.. Both must show sincere apologies and remorse WITHOUT ANY QUESTION ASKS! Only then things would get better.

Hipe this help u out.
 
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