gspshields2
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American women are so respectful and polite, courteous, educated, smart, charming, the list goes on. I love American women...
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Heh heh heh.cordoncordon said:Here is the thing, no matter what you do right now, you aren't going to win with this girl. Not that you should want to win or even care, but you could save a puppy off the street and she will find something wrong with it. Been through this type of thing, and its a no win situation like I said.
I mean first, she breaks up with you WHILE in Vegas. Who does that? Vegas is supposed to be the funnest of the fun, not breakup city. She knew what she was doing. She went over to those guys and sat with them because she could give a flying F about you right now for whatever reason. Don't know why, but it is what it is. The thought of my present gf doing something like that is so alien, so off the damn wall that I would have to say it is damn near impossible. But we have a great relationship. Your gf thought yours sucked, and so she wanted out. And look how she has acted since. No trying to reconcile. Cold texts. Mean spirited to the extreme. These are not the actions of someone who has your best interests at heart.
You are going about this the right way. The ONLY way you win here (and by win I mean by keeping your self respect) is to keep doing what you are doing. Don't email. Don't text. Don't call. Don't beg. Don't plead. Don't yell. Don't cry. Just walk away with your head held high and don't say a nasty thing about her to anyone. She knows what she did was wrong. Now she wants you to justify her decision by acting like a d1ck. Don't do it.
Walk away. This is NOT the girl for you, and someday when you are with someone who is, you will look back at all this and laugh.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.