"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Broke Up, Just Wondering

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So last week, me and my ex broke up due to me having a "attitude"(whatever). For a few days after the break up I didn't say anything to her, then 3-4 days later she calls and texts me "I love you" "I miss you ". I just responded back with "I wish you the best". She called me Saturday, I didn't answer, didn't talk to her Sunday, then Monday she tries to add me on FB, I declined. Yesterday she texted and called me , I ignored it, then she texted my little brother asking me to call her. I responded to her text message by just saying "I'm fine" she asked me to call her, I texted back "no, whats up", then a minute later she texts back "**** YOU , I hate you and NEVER WANT TO TALK TO YOU AGAIN, You were a failure at the relationship", all I texted back was "Thats cool"....


What's with the different emotions?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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How is this a tip?

You sound like you have a lot of growing up to do. The high school subforums are here, ask them.
 

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Why do I need to grow up? I was calm, didn't say anything. She flipped out.
 

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You played it perfect. Now just try to go no contact. She knows she has messed up.
 

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
You played it perfect. Now just try to go no contact. She knows she has messed up.
How can you tell she knows she messed up?

If she contacts me cool, if not then fine just kinda crazy to see her go from nice to hate in a minute .
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Because she keeps contacting you and now she is mad. She is mad be cause she knows she screwed up.
 

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
Because she keeps contacting you and now she is mad. She is mad be cause she knows she screwed up.

Well maybe she does hate me and won't talk to me again, idk it's been only two days , I haven't contacted her.
 

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Jon55 said:
How is this a tip?

You sound like you have a lot of growing up to do. The high school subforums are here, ask them.
Sorry, Jon55, but you're out of line.

The OP is demonstrating textbook perfect handling of this girl.

OP, you need to maintain absolute radio silence for a while at this point. No contact until she starts begging. You need to play it cool to the point where she realizes you are rejecting her. Let us know how things progress.

One of my fellow mods is probably going to move this out of tips and into general discussion because it's presented a s a question.
 

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I'm being absolutely quiet, but maybe she meant that she hates and won't talk to me again.
 

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OP as you described above; her emotions are acting up. That's what you want since women are emotional beings she isn't getting what she wants so she vents it on you. Keep it up regardless of your objective with her, don't let her disrespect you.

She wont stop thinking about you because you handled it like a man and not like every chump out there.

Props
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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She called me last night, I didn't respond. Tonight she texts me. "how's crystal?" I didn't text anything back. What do I do?
 

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I wouldn't do anything. She hasn't actually started standing outside your house saying she wants to get back together. Until then it is just meaningless txts...
 

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This morning get a Facebook request from her, just ignored it. Right thing to do?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Stay the course. She needs to feel massive anxiety in order to change.
 

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Stop paying attention to her, start juggling other chicks bro.
 

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Ypu asked in the OP "What's with the different emotions", but this is just her struggling to deal with suddenly having to adjust to YOUR frame.

She is being taught that it's your way or no way, and her little brain is short-circuiting, because the "impossible" has happened... you have turned the tables on her and she never saw it coming.

This is a critical period right now. She has to move into begging mode for any of this to "stick"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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