Broke the seal: first plate officially spinning

[MOTU]

So it went like this: plate 1 (p1) and I went out 2 times (but not fancy dates; met her at a bar at her request first meet then she drove to my office and we went to lunch). She starts getting more and more suggestive and I play along, get her to send me some sexy pics which I play cool. I am busy a lot and she tells me she wants to see me again more than once.

So I call p1 Thursday and say "I want to see you Saturday. We can either grab dinner and a comedy show or I can get us a room and we can see how many orgasms you can have in 4 hours. I have to be home by 11pm (I have a kid at home)". So she catches her breath from that she picks the latter. New she would.

I fvcked her upside down and inside out 3x. She gives great he@d lol.

In fairness, she is probably only a 6.5 or so, but plenty sexy for me. I don't think I'll be able to keep her spinning long, she is already hinting around about exclusivity - P1: "Can I ask you a personal question? How many other people are you dating?" Me: "well we did meet on a dating site". There were a couple of exchanges like that, I was able to play them off for the most part, though she was persistent. At a different time - P1 "I know you probably get lots of dates but if you are sleeping with me I don't want you sleeping with them" Me:"(silence. start svcking her tits.)".

I do have a couple more plates on the table but not spinning yet, getting closer. It's a little tough for me because I am legitimately busy and I have a kid so logistics can be an issue. But I am making progress!!!

Any advice on how to handle her exclusivity comments in the future?

 

[macallik]

If you think she can handle it, sit her down and let her know in no uncertain terms that you are not interested in a relationship.

If you don't think that will work, then just don't pick up her calls/text for a while. Then when you finally pick up and she says 'where have you been/what's been going on?" tell her that you felt like things were getting serious and you weren't interested in pursuing a relationship so you thought it was best to take a breather.

If you play things that way, then she either realizes now that you aren't interested in a relationship and drops you... or she realizes that you aren't interested in a relationship, but knows that if she pushes too hard, you will disappear again, so she doesn't bring it up again in the immediate future.

Mostly ever girl I have dealt with has chosen option #2. Just so we are clear though, it is still only a temporary fix. Sometime down the road weeks or months from now, something trivial will happen involving another female and she will unleash all of the pent up emotions.