"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Broham = friendzone?

Newton

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So this girl I met from class has been initiating text with me recently asking me what I'm up to for the night and trying to get me to come out and have drinks with her. Her most recent text was something along the lines of "Whatcha up to tonight broham?" I just ignored it and asked her what she was up to.

Does this mean anything at all? I've had girls call me homie/bro/whatever-guy-lingo and still had them wanting my ****. I've also seen girls refer to their boyfriend as 'homie' also. If you're wondering, these are not ghetto girls at all. This kind of talk only goes through text/facebook. I'm about 99.9% sure she's interested in me as more than just a friend from the way she was drunk talking to me over the phone this one time.

I just want to get some input from the community so I can prepare a little bit.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Pimp-sicle

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If guys spent as much time actually taking action as they did OVER-ANALYZING a girl's words (which don't mean jack-$hit) there would be a lot more space on this forum to discuss relevant topics.


Hopefully...... you see the answer to your question in the sentence above OP.








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Newton said:
So this girl I met from class has been initiating text with me recently asking me what I'm up to for the night and trying to get me to come out and have drinks with her. Her most recent text was something along the lines of "Whatcha up to tonight broham?" I just ignored it and asked her what she was up to.

Does this mean anything at all? I've had girls call me homie/bro/whatever-guy-lingo and still had them wanting my ****. I've also seen girls refer to their boyfriend as 'homie' also. If you're wondering, these are not ghetto girls at all. This kind of talk only goes through text/facebook. I'm about 99.9% sure she's interested in me as more than just a friend from the way she was drunk talking to me over the phone this one time.

I just want to get some input from the community so I can prepare a little bit.
Then why are you over-analyzing it this time? Hopefully you met up with her tonight and found the answer to your question by her ACTIONS.
 

PapiChulo

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I don't think it is in this case, but in most cases if the woman refers to you as a "big brother" it is a sure sign of friendzone indeed (subcounciencely). I use "sister" to friendzone women, or sometimes "little sister" on a woman that's being gamed so I can get away with more. Sometimes unavailable women will do that to you so they won't get called a hoe even though she is obviously attracted to you, e.i. slapping your butt. Be aware and judge by the actions! So go out and make a move while tipsy. Should be easy as pie.
 
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