"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Britni de la Cretaz: 30-year-old mom won’t have sex with husband just ‘to keep him happy’

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Britni de la Cretaz: 30-year-old mom won’t have sex with husband just ‘to keep him happy’


Nisean Lorde

December 17, 2015


In a candidly-open, no holds barred essay for Cosmopolitan, 30-year-old mother Britni de la Cretaz says she’s spent her entire life having sex for other people and for the wrong reasons—but she’s not taking it anymore. Not until she learns how to have sex for herself.


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“I’ve had sex because I wanted people to like me. I’ve had sex because I didn’t want my partner to be angry with me anymore. I’ve had sex because I wanted drugs from someone. I’ve had sex because I felt like I had to,” she wrote in her essay.

“Growing up in a world that tells women that we are sexual objects…I learned to see my value being measured by how many men wanted to sleep with me.”

The self-proclaimed feminist parent opened up about past relationships where she says men first and foremost treated her as a sex object. She said she performed the type of sex acts that her partners desired—so much so that she began to mimic moves that she saw actresses execute in pornography.

The freelance writer—now a wife and mother—felt so traumatized by these experiences that she typically only began to desire sex as a means to make her partner happy.
Curious to see what her husband looks like. I wonder if pink is the colour of insane?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To be fair though, I don't understand what some women get out of sex. I have a FB who apparently doesn't care if she has an orgasm, won't tell me any preferences, leaves me to do whatever I like, but still comes back for more. It's like she does it only for validation and cuddling. Fine with me, it's an arrangement.

But I hope to god my future wife won't turn out like this.
 

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What i hate is that women objectify themselves first and then they blame men that are treating them as objects.

Her man must be really a big beta male, there is no other explanation.
It goes back to their concept of accountability, which is basically (not expressively but through the sum of rationalizations) that in intersexual relations men have it and women don't. If they acknowledge that women can affect men with stimuli, it opens a ton of implications and new questions, creating a major crack in the defenses of army group gynocentrism that the mobile hamster reserve would be under heavy pressure to prevent a breakthrough from occurring.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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