Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Britni de la Cretaz: 30-year-old mom won’t have sex with husband just ‘to keep him happy’

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Britni de la Cretaz: 30-year-old mom won’t have sex with husband just ‘to keep him happy’


Nisean Lorde

December 17, 2015


In a candidly-open, no holds barred essay for Cosmopolitan, 30-year-old mother Britni de la Cretaz says she’s spent her entire life having sex for other people and for the wrong reasons—but she’s not taking it anymore. Not until she learns how to have sex for herself.


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“I’ve had sex because I wanted people to like me. I’ve had sex because I didn’t want my partner to be angry with me anymore. I’ve had sex because I wanted drugs from someone. I’ve had sex because I felt like I had to,” she wrote in her essay.

“Growing up in a world that tells women that we are sexual objects…I learned to see my value being measured by how many men wanted to sleep with me.”

The self-proclaimed feminist parent opened up about past relationships where she says men first and foremost treated her as a sex object. She said she performed the type of sex acts that her partners desired—so much so that she began to mimic moves that she saw actresses execute in pornography.

The freelance writer—now a wife and mother—felt so traumatized by these experiences that she typically only began to desire sex as a means to make her partner happy.
Curious to see what her husband looks like. I wonder if pink is the colour of insane?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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To be fair though, I don't understand what some women get out of sex. I have a FB who apparently doesn't care if she has an orgasm, won't tell me any preferences, leaves me to do whatever I like, but still comes back for more. It's like she does it only for validation and cuddling. Fine with me, it's an arrangement.

But I hope to god my future wife won't turn out like this.
 

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What i hate is that women objectify themselves first and then they blame men that are treating them as objects.

Her man must be really a big beta male, there is no other explanation.
It goes back to their concept of accountability, which is basically (not expressively but through the sum of rationalizations) that in intersexual relations men have it and women don't. If they acknowledge that women can affect men with stimuli, it opens a ton of implications and new questions, creating a major crack in the defenses of army group gynocentrism that the mobile hamster reserve would be under heavy pressure to prevent a breakthrough from occurring.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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