"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Following Pook's instructions, I have tried to minimize the amount of flirting and kino that I do with girls early on. Supposedly a real DJ should be so inherently sexual that those things are overkill. (Also, flirting is a tad bit girly and indirect.)

So here's the quick question: If I'm talking to a girl and before too long, she brings up her boyfriend (who lives in a different city), does that mean I'm doing a good job? As I said, I usually don't flirt much or do kino, so the fact that she's considering me a threat/prospect must be a good thing!

or does that just happen to every guy who "approaches," loser or otherwise?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i think it was wyldfire who wrote a wonderful post about this.
it got a lot of responses.
 
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yeah, I think I read that one -- and also i've read Pook's discourse on W0manese.

But I'm not even really talking about whether she's interested in me or whether she's trying to reject me. I just think it's funny for them to mention their boyfriends when I'm just talking to them, and not even overtly hitting on them.

of course, if they are interested in me, for whatever reason, then they can forget it. I don't deal with other guys' girlfriends. If you do that, you're just asking for either a hor or a girl who will waste your time.
 
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