bringing up boyfriends

[Obsidian]

Following Pook's instructions, I have tried to minimize the amount of flirting and kino that I do with girls early on. Supposedly a real DJ should be so inherently sexual that those things are overkill. (Also, flirting is a tad bit girly and indirect.)

So here's the quick question: If I'm talking to a girl and before too long, she brings up her boyfriend (who lives in a different city), does that mean I'm doing a good job? As I said, I usually don't flirt much or do kino, so the fact that she's considering me a threat/prospect must be a good thing!

or does that just happen to every guy who "approaches," loser or otherwise?

 

[penkitten]

i think it was wyldfire who wrote a wonderful post about this.
it got a lot of responses.

 

[Obsidian]

yeah, I think I read that one -- and also i've read Pook's discourse on W0manese.

But I'm not even really talking about whether she's interested in me or whether she's trying to reject me. I just think it's funny for them to mention their boyfriends when I'm just talking to them, and not even overtly hitting on them.

of course, if they are interested in me, for whatever reason, then they can forget it. I don't deal with other guys' girlfriends. If you do that, you're just asking for either a hor or a girl who will waste your time.