Bringing up a conversation!

[ColonyConfused]

So lets get to know me a little bit first, i'm 19, and i'm a virgin, but where i live it's ok to be a virgin until you get married no matter when you get married, it's like a culture, and i have a fairly good relationship with my hands so i take care of myself until i really feel the need. anyway, i've never had a serious relationship, i've had long distance relationships but they're no use, so i only learned a few emotional tricks about girls and that's all. i have read a lot about girls and "how to have a good relationship" stuff, i think i'm ready to give it a try and start my DJ journey.
So there's a girl that i see at the language institute i go, i used to see her there, we never talked i only made a few successful eye contacts with her, and when the semester was completed and we had done our exams, i accidentally found her on a website, so i sent her a message and we got to know each other a little bit, she told me that she remembers me, (probably from the eye contacts).
i tried asking her out twice, i offered her a ride to the school for the graduation session, there was two sessions, for the first one she said she was going with her sister because she has a car, but she's sorry, the second time for the second session she said "i caaan''ttt .. but we will meet soon".
i found out my actions are very needy and i stopped it, we only talked briefly since then for random stuff.
the new semester starts next week and we're trying to pick up the same classes with the same profs to be in the same classes, she agrees with it all, she seems like she's attracted too, but she's shy!.. she likes art, she's a painter, and when i told her that i play Classical Guitar she liked it a lot.
here's the situation from where i see it:

-we haven't met yet, like a date.
-she has my phone number, i gave it to her this morning because we're planning to take our classes at the same time and we need to be connected.
-she's busy most of the days of the week, (its another class she's attending that i know nothing of).
-she's single
-i'm single
-we're both Libra
-i like her, for a LTR.
-its hard for me to find a topic that she's interested to talk about, since she's into arts too much, and i'm not that into arts, i'm a computer engineer so i never had much time for Art.

so i'm trying to have a relationship with her, we'll meet next week at the institute, but this time we know each other and we will talk obviously. the thing is i'm afraid we would just keep looking at each other and have nothing to talk about... that would be the worst thing.

So:
-what you think i should start talking about with her, to one: get her to like me more, two: keep her interested.
-what do you think of my situation, what would be your advises?.

Thanks a bunch.

 

[ColonyConfused]

Help!.. anyone?!.... i know i should read other topics and especially DJ Bible first, but the thing is i think my situation is kind of a little more complicated, i need a straight advice, Please .

 

[bookman]

this forum is not about helping you get girl X, it's about self improvement and getting girls in general.

you're analyzing and interpreting a girl's behavior, that is never a good sign also, you're focusing on "what to talk about" if you want to set up dates(as I learned the hard way) don't go for dinners or coffee or whatever like what you see on TV, instead do bowling(even retarded countries have bowling, I know mine does ) or hiking or whatever, an activity. that way you'll at least be able to talk about who is winning, you might get to teach her how to bowl and it would be less awkward to ask"hey lets go bowling" instead of saying "lets go to dinner"

you gave her your phone number, she is very unlikely to call you, girls usually don't call(especially not first) and you seem to lack the challenge...

I don't like your situation, she owns you she is control of when she can and cannot see you, not you, this is not good, learn from this and try dating other girls simultaneously

 

[TheVirtualMind]

This isn't a Tip, it's a Discussion.

 

[ColonyConfused]

@bookman- i think you're right man.. yeah she owns me, dang i didn't see that coming.. thanks for the tips, i'd do my best to memorize them for the NEXT chick .
by the way, we are friends now, like even closer than before, i'm going to give it a try to see if i can give her another chance, she might not see it coming, but i still think she can be a good GF.. despite the fact that she's very Hot. but i agree i acted like a newbie, i am one, readings don't play sh!t role.
ok Thanks anyway. and Sorry TheVirtualMind, i was actually looking for a tip at first.

 

[TheVirtualMind]

Sorry TheVirtualMind, i was actually looking for a tip at first.

It's cool. The Tips section is just for people posting a tip, not looking for one (or trying to figure out how to play "Just The"...Nevermind.)

Also, I agree whole-heartedly with bookman. Become a challenge. Don't try to impress her, but work on yourself, which, in turn, will impress her (or many other women, since, you know, there is more than 1 female out there in the world.) Take full advantage of what this site has to offer.

 

[ColonyConfused]

ok Thanks, i'm really looking forward to spend at least 2 hours a day on this website, and of course doing the exercises in the real world.
the same institute which i met her at, has loads of cute girls, mostly plus 8's, i guess that's going to be a good place to start my DJ journey.